Sorry if this is long.
The head of year 9 at DS school called me to say she'd had a long chat with DS this afternoon. Apparently 2 of his friends, a boy and a girl, had been to see her as they were worried about him and they mentioned self harm.
The yr head then called him in to make sure he was ok. He said nothing was specifically bothering him but he just felt a bit low. He told her definitely hadn't self harmed and hadn't thought about it.
She pressed him about it - asked about school work, homelife etc but he insisted there was nothing specific bothering him. I guess because he was feeling sensitive about the whole situation, he cried a bit at that point.
She called me and told me about it all. I told her I had gone through depression at his age and would keep an eye on him to see if he was showing signs. She couldn't tell me which friends had been to see her of course.
She seemed like she was doing her best to help and has left it with me to decide what to do, leaving her number if I need to ask for any support.
DS usually no problem speaking to me and his dad when he feels bad about something. Also his friends seem really nice and he says he can talk to them. He split up with his girlfriend a month ago and was able to talk through what he felt about that with me and with his friends.
We had a big hug when he got home from school and he cried a bit more.
We had a chat about his mood and he confirmed its nothing specific, just feeling down. He has seemed low lately but I put it down to hormones and tiredness. I am inclined to believe him and I feel sure he hasn't self harmed - we went swimming yesterday and he had no marks that I could see plus he seemed really sincere when he said he hadn't.
I am wondering a couple of things. Should he go to the GP? I am thinking not yet but keep.an eye on him. Would anyone here take him anyway? What would they do?
The other thing is - why would his friends think he is at risk of self harm or worse?
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DS14 school called to say his friends think he might be self harming
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couchparsnip · 18/11/2019 17:41
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