I have a 19 yo dd who i had when i was very young, her dad left us when she was 3, he never bothered with her until this yr, he would only look to see her if i looked for money off him, then he would come see her once and not bother after that again. For a long time she didn't see him or his family, 4 yrs ago i left a very bad relationship and i was talking with her grandparents after it, i started to talk more with them, and she did too, but wven when she was in their house and he came in he would ignore her, her aunty has fallen out with the whole family for trying to defend DD and get her dad to talk to her. Any way in the past few months since him and his wife had their 4th baby (first girl) he suddenly started talking with her again
Recently she has been going to visit him a lot and the past 2 weeks she has stayed every night in her nannies and visited him everyday, and since then she has stopped talking to me, i went to their house today to try talk with her, she tols me how bad i was and how everything i ever did was wrong, i know i haven't always been the best mum but i always did what i thought was best for her. I really don't know what to do know. She is suddenly bringing up things from the past that i thought we had talked about and delat with to the best of our abilities, i know that there were bad times but why is she only bringing this up now since she is seeing him again, i would do anything for her and now she wants nothing to do with me, if she comes in the house she just grabs what she wants and leaves again doesnt say hello or goodbye or anything. She tild me today i dont spend time with her, just us, but i cant as she is never here and if she is the boyfriend is with her. If i ask her to go any where she says no. She told my dh ages ago that i was too much and she wanted me to back off and stop babying her that she was grown up so I did know shes saying i dont care and i dont spend time with her, i just can't seem to win.
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LucyDev18 · 15/11/2019 20:38
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