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Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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Smell of weed in DS17 room

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SiamSigh · 04/11/2019 21:06

I thought I'd smelled it a couple of times recently, very faint.

This evening outside his door, distinct smell.

I have a very strong sense of smell by the way.

I asked him had he got weed in his room. "No" was his determined, slightly irritated reply.

"Well, the smell is coming from somewhere, and its not from me" I responded.

His reply "I don't know" - he had to go out then to get some wifi as ours turns off at 9 p.m. I told him no, but he said he had to message someone about an essay .

Not really sure what to do. I told him I don't want that smell in the house. He said yes, OK. And if I smell it again after Thursday, I'll have to do something as I'm not having it in the house.

The thing is - what would I do in reality?

We've spoken about drugs several times over the last few years. He knows the risks. So its not ignorance. He has told me lots of people at school (Lower Sixth) take or have taken drugs (weed, MDMA etc).

I'm just a bit disappointed. How could he have got that smell into the house - clothes? I suppose that means he's trying it. I'm not fanatically anti-drugs, but he's only just turned 17 and its the last thing we need to contend with.

I suppose all I can do is (answering my own question) wait and see if it happens again. If it does, a proper sit down talk.

Teens. Every bloody day there's some new drama. Even keeping my distance as a strategy, its exhausing.

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SiamSigh · 04/11/2019 21:27

Sorry, I think I had to "write it out". At a loss what to do, am not going to anything more for now. I'm not panicking or anything. My DS knows that ultimately I won't tolerate it. Its just bleurgh here we go, a new issue ...

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SiamSigh · 04/11/2019 21:34

Solved! I think and hope anyway. There was a reasonable explanation! I just was a bit gobsmacked. Sorry if wasted thread ...

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SiamSigh · 04/11/2019 21:38

Oops. Solved! He came into living room with reasonable explanation, I think!

Apologies if wasted reading for posters.

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wishing4sun · 04/11/2019 21:38

From personal experience if you have always had an open and honest relationship he will
Come to you if he is trying it. Or just ask him outright if anything like my ds18 boys are terrible liars. Good luck.

SiamSigh · 04/11/2019 21:39

Thanks wishing!

I was just a bit

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rainbowconfetti · 04/11/2019 21:42

Not sure there is a reasonable explanation tbh.

BrassTactical · 04/11/2019 21:44

Would love to know the reasonable explanation (he went out and gave himself time to think of).

SlothRunner · 04/11/2019 21:55

My ex BF when i was 17/18 used to smoke a lot of weed, as did his brother who we spent a lot of time with. I tried it a couple if times, but it wasnt for. I still went home with the smell on my clothes, even though i wasnt joining in

iwoulddoanything · 04/11/2019 22:29

At 18 my room was facing the garden. If I had the window open and the NDN's were smoking weed, my room would reek.

StayClassySally · 04/11/2019 22:30

So... what was the reasonable explanation?

whereareallmyhairbands · 04/11/2019 22:32

The only thing that smells of weed....

Is weed.

The excuse he told you probably smells of bullshit...

They're different.

SiamSigh · 04/11/2019 22:45

I think giving the full explanation might be a bit outing for him.

I'm a pretty worldly person btw and no pushover, but I think one needs to find the balance between worldliness and trust. I was satisfied with the answer, even if it wasn't 100% the whole story, it was surprisingly candid and seemed fairly realistic, and I was glad he told me. I'm sorry I can't be more specific. Sorry if the thread a bit inconclusive ending ...

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InsertFunnyUsername · 04/11/2019 22:49

Ahhh. Yeah hes smoking weed.

Take it from someone who was a young puff head. He isnt holding it for someone else, He didn't pick up the wrong persons jacket, He didn't sit next to someone who smoked it. It isnt his new aftershave or deodrant either. Pretty much the only explanation for smelling weed is...

Swisskit · 04/11/2019 22:50

I was going to ask if he had a wetsuit. I had one that absolutely reeked of weed, to the point where it made everything in my wardrobe smell of it.

I wrote to the manufacturer, who confirmed that some wetsuit fabrics do deteriorate and give off a cannabis-like smell. Who knew?

gamerchick · 04/11/2019 23:01

Ah you'll learn OP. Good luck man.

rainbowconfetti · 04/11/2019 23:18

I think giving the full explanation might be a bit outing for him.

What the?

Outing for him?

Do his friends spend a lot of time on Mumsnet

StayClassySally · 05/11/2019 11:45

When I open a bottle of stella it sometimes gives off l'eau de weed.

He is either smoking or drinking copious amounts

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