Teen nightmare

[Heeeelllllppppp]

To start a bit of back ground info. I'm a single.parent who works full time, other parent passed away. I haven't been the greatest of.parents and I know all kids are different but the others are well behaved and well mannered.

My 13 yr old is getting worse by the day. It started of with petty back chat to me. It has since escalated to him carrying knives on the street, robbing his mates parents cigarettes and tobacco, cash cards(contactless) trying to kick peoples doors in, breaking into houses, steeling from home and bullying. I have contacted social services and there answer was to have nothing in the house he can take like knives, not.practical whe you need to feed other kids, police said dont leave anything at home that is valuable again not.practicle unless I have a removal van for when I go work. None of his family want anything g to do with him as he has stole.and lied to them. I have people threatening me because of hid behaviour and all social services do is make sure his room is clean. I have tried every approach possible but nothing works. He has been caught shop lifting twice, first time.police left him on my doorstep as I was at work, which resulted in me having to report him missing. The second time they refused to arrest him as it was too much paperwork. I've no idea what to do

[mcmen05]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/teenagers/3711135-Thread-three-holding-on-to-the-end-of-the-rope-life-in-the-bunker-with-the-PoTs-where-parenting-a-teen-is-adversely-affecting-your-mental-health

This thread may help there was 2 previous threads with loads off advice.
He is very young to be involved in all that does he go to school can they help you.

[Kaia16]

Hi mums. I am a single mum and really struggling with my 2 kids who constantly fight with each other. DD is 19 and at Uni, so lives at home. She has a p/t job and pays a small amt in digs. DS is 15 and typical teenage boy - school and xbox. Not yet got a p/t job. Their dad died very suddenly 5 years ago (altho we were split up for 5 years before this) Kids had bereavement counselling etc so I dont feel this is the cause.
Over the last 6 months life has been awful. DD and DS argue over something trivial and it escalates to a full screaming match - and a couple of times physical pushing and hitting each other (with me in the middle). I try to reason with each, and calm them down (never works) and each accuse me of letting the other off with things. This then escalates with mainly DD then shouting at me being really nasty and calling me terrible names, that i am a shit mum etc. The latest was a comment at the dinner table last week, which was lighthearted but again escalated into a huge argument resulting in DD shouting at me. I told her that was enough/do not speak to me like that, but she shouted more, threw her cutlery at me and stormed upstairs. My DS just wants her to leave home - and tells her to leave when they argue. I feel miserable - I dont want to tell her to move out whilst shes at Uni, but I feel this might be the only solution. This behaviour at her age is just not acceptable and I cannot put up with it any more. I have no clue what to do - any suggestions? Thanks