Is it alright for my teenage sons to only wear shorts in front of us?

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Lisa2019GB Thu 03-Oct-19 21:02:09

Hi all. I have two sons in their late teens. In the evening after they come home and shower they will watch TV in the living room with just their shorts on - no socks or t-shirt. Sometimes they will fall asleep and I throw a blanket over them. I never thought anything of it, why should I? Anyhow, a friend of mine was visiting recently and commented about it, saying that they should be fully clothed in the house and it's not normal behavior.

My husband doesn't have an issue with it either, he simply says we are family so it doesn't matter it's not like they are naked, but I wanted to get some outside opinions about it from other parents out there as I don't really see the issue personally.

I have have a close relationship with my boys and wouldn't want to make things unnecessarily awkward.

All views appreciated!

Thank you smile

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Mabelface Thu 03-Oct-19 21:03:16

It's very normal behaviour. Your friend is a little uptight!

palahvah Thu 03-Oct-19 21:04:56

Why on earth would this be an issue?

Knickerbockergloryonthebeach Thu 03-Oct-19 21:04:57

I'm prudish but this seems normal behaviour to me, and why teach them that their bodies are something to be ashamed of.

Frenchfancy Thu 03-Oct-19 21:04:58

I'm guessing if you were on the beach or by the pool they would only have trunks on so I don't see the difference. If you want them to put more clothes on then turn the heating down.

Bigearringsbigsmile Thu 03-Oct-19 21:06:07

Your friend is weird. Totally normal. Mine will still do an occasional naked clean pants hunt too!

sunshineandshowers21 Thu 03-Oct-19 21:06:12

it wouldn’t bother me at all. my eldest son is 12 so not quite a teenager yet but he often wanders about in just his boxers, as does his dad and 5 year old brother. we’re quite an open family though and have never had any issue with being naked/partly naked in front of each other.


Ohyesiam Thu 03-Oct-19 21:06:12

I think your friend has no idea what a home is meant to be like. The place where you can stand down, be yourself and be totally comfortable.
But, We’re they in their pants in front of the friend, or did you just mention it to her? It’s fine for family , but as you have found out, it’s going to get a reaction from some.

Lisa2019GB Thu 03-Oct-19 21:06:30

@Frenchfancy Like I said I don't have a problem with it, but the fact that she highlighted it was "not normal" made me question it. It was quite embarrassing for me to be honest.

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DramaAlpaca Thu 03-Oct-19 21:07:18

It's fine, not an issue.

Starlight456 Thu 03-Oct-19 21:07:40

Yep my 12 year old often is in pj shorts. I don’t perceive I will have an issue with it at any point in the future.

As you say family and it’s their home too

helpfulperson Thu 03-Oct-19 21:07:49

I think so long as they are aware enough to understand when it might not be OK eg if you have visitors then it's fine.

Thenotes Thu 03-Oct-19 21:07:50

I would draw the line at underpants, not for any sense of sexual indecency but just because there should be a line 😁 but shorts completely fine.

1sttimemumma Thu 03-Oct-19 21:07:58

Your friend is an idiot (sorry)

Firstly, they are your sons in your house so it is none of her business.
Secondly - why on earth would you be uncomfortable to see your own child in shorts? Do you feel uncomfortable when men go swimming?

There is no reason to feel weird about it - her thought process is wrong, her suggestion is on the brink of sexualising a platonic situation (as I assume this is the uncomfortable part). There is no need to be uncomfortable otherwise?

Lisa2019GB Thu 03-Oct-19 21:08:05

@Ohyesiam She visited after they already settled, so they didn't do it knowing she was in the house at the time. But they weren't in her view anyway, she only noticed because she went and said hello.

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Oly4 Thu 03-Oct-19 21:08:51

You should have laughed at her and told her in your family you’re not worried about sons who wear shorts!! She’s being ridiculous.

CalamityJune Thu 03-Oct-19 21:09:55

Maybe if there were visitors i would expect them to put a t shirt on but not if it's just your family in the house.

What an odd thing for her to say.

(I'd be too bloody cold personally)

GreigLaidlawsbarofsoap Thu 03-Oct-19 21:10:13

It's their home, not hers. I'd have told her to jog on, the judgemental uptight mardy arse. She's the weird one, not your boys.

tmh88 Thu 03-Oct-19 21:11:19

This seems perfectly normal, in fact it would feel more odd if I came home and everyone was showered and fully clothed confused

Lisa2019GB Thu 03-Oct-19 21:11:25

@Oly4 I glossed over it explaining that it's normal in our house we don't view it as anything other, what else can I possibly say in response. I was shocked.

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stucknoue Thu 03-Oct-19 21:12:01

It's fine, it's their house. All female house here and my 18 year old dd will lie around in very short pj shorts or even underwear. There generation isn't as worried as ours about these things

Lisa2019GB Thu 03-Oct-19 21:13:01

@GreigLaidlawsbarofsoap I agree with you just in that sense, but normally she's perfectly fine if you get what I mean. It could just be that she has a different mindset in her house, as when I've visited even in the evening everyone is in daytime clothes so I think that it was stems from.

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Teachermaths Thu 03-Oct-19 21:13:23

How warm is your house? I'd be freezing in just shorts but my heating isn't on yet.

Haffdonga Thu 03-Oct-19 21:13:55

When you say shorts, do you mean baggy tracky bottom type shorts or itsy bitsy teeny skin tight under crackers?

Either way it wouldn't be a problem in our house but my teen sons wouldn't have wanted to be seen in skinny knickers by visiting mum friends.

Lisa2019GB Thu 03-Oct-19 21:15:04

@Teachermaths It's not hot enough to need to take your clothes off nor cold enough to put them on, but I think it's more of a thing to relax. Being in clothes all day and then at home makes you uncomfortable.

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