Any advice please?
I have 2 children 14 and 11. Their dad and I have been divorced 5 years and I’ve remarried. The children have always spent 9 nights with my husband and I and then 5 with their dad for years this has worked. My daughter the last 6 months has said she wants 1 home and to live with my husband and I. She is very close to us and doesn’t seem to get on with her dad. I’ve put this down to teenage hormones etc but she says she doesn’t like him and feel anxious at his house. I’ve been letting her stay her and she’s been going to her dads for tea a few times a week and spending every other Sunday with her but is still reluctant. Her dad has never moved on since we split, tells her he’s sad and I left him, is lonely, if she doesn’t stay he’s sad. Lots of things along those lines. He also does not like my husband who she is very close to. She says all of this makes her anxious. I want her to have a good relationship with her dad and I’ve tried talking to him about things and how she feels but he still continues to emotionally blackmail her. She has seen a counsellor who says I shouldn’t make her spend time with him if she doesn’t want to but if she had it her way she wouldn’t see him at all. Do I say it’s ok she never sees him?
My 11 year old son is happy with arrangements and still staying his nights at his dads but I worry he then has to bear the brunt for his dad’s sadness. Their dad has admitted depressions etc but in 5 years it’s not gotten better.
So for rambling just trying to figure out what is best for my babies as they are my world and I want them stable and happy.
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14 year old doesn’t want to stay with her dad
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Gruff123 · 01/10/2019 11:46
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