Sorry this has turned into an essay/rant....
She's been doing this since she started secondary 2 years ago. I've found countless chocolate, sweet and biscuit wrappers stuffed under her bed, in her bag, in drawers, inside pillows and toys. In the past when I've asked her about it she says 'It's from ages ago' but she and I both know that is not true - I cleared out under her bed two days ago and today found lots more wrappers.
Its better in the holidays as I work from home so have a bit more control over what she eats, and she is not passing the sweet shop everyday, but now school is back it has all started up again. At school on her lunch card she is buying flavoured milk and pain au chocolate, usually not proper meal. She often skips breakfast and usually complains about my cooking at dinner, pushing her food around her plate (I can cook quite well I think, and try to do a variety of healthy, tasty food - also have occasional treats of ice cream, crisps etc).
She is overweight and I suspect very unhappy about the way she looks. I know she has been having friend issues at school, and rarely has social invitations from others - I think that is making her anxious which will be at the root of it, although she has always had a thing for sugary fatty food (always the last one at the birthday party to leave the table).
I've tried different approaches over the past two years - everything from softly softly to getting really cross. I've considered loitering (like a weirdo) outside the sweetshop at home time, confiscating her money, checking her pockets and bag when she gets in, but don't want to turn into the sweet police and anyway that is not tackling the cause. I've thought about sending her on a cooking course to help improve her relationship with food - she did a taster in the holidays and enjoyed it, but haven't found a regular course that suits.
I worry about what eating so much bad food does to the health of a growing teen. She is not remotely sporty - does no formal exercise outside school and last year only had one PE lesson a week(!). I've tried encouraging her to take an activity up, but she is not interested at all. Both DH and I are physically quite active. He has always been a bigger bloke and struggles a little with his weight and self control (food and alcohol), but his whole family are 'large boned'' (their own description). My side of the family are all tall and slim. Our son takes after me physically, daughter after her father.
I have asked at school for help, but I don't really want to tell her tutor about her eating issues - so said she seemed sad and anxious at home and was having friend issues. So far nothing has happened. I will try again now its a new school year, but do I go to the doctor if that does not work?
Has anyone been through something similar and sorted it out, or is it something she will always struggle with?
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Happymonster · 11/09/2019 09:37
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