DD's (15) new boyfriend (16) seems a nice enough polite boy BUT from the bits of conversations I hear (on Facetime) from her bedroom during the evenings, I am concerned he's quite intense and emotional. One minute he sounds all sad and grumpy in his voice and I hear dd saying 'Are you crying ? Come back ...' and then he starts talking again and seems OK. He's totally smitten with dd and they talk all evening. I caught dd talking to him at 1.45am this morning. DH have told her this is totally unacceptable and is not to happen again. I won't go into what else I have heard but he appears quite insecure and has made reference to dd's last relationship - not wanting dd to look at the other boys posts on Snapchat etc. DD say's her bf is sweet, caring and adores her but I have a nasty niggle that although he seems nice enough, polite and caring to her in one sense .. that he might be emotionally manipulative and controlling. I have seen some social media photo's with him almost 'claiming' dd in the photo's - or is it normal teenage stances?. DD is quite a prize, quite striking fro a 15yo & I am sure he's feeling quite pleased with his catch. We don't know him well but he is coming to the house soon, we are not allowing any bedroom chillout time as dh and I have set this rule. Do I wait to see how things pan out ? I can't let dd know I have overheard their convo's .. although they are not quiet about talking particularly. The relationship happened very fast after dd's last one, this bf did not waste any time ! I feel a bit mean but I just don't feel happy about this relationship and dd thinks I don't like the boy. Although it might sound as if I am making assumptions, my gut is telling me I am right. Has anyone else had this situation with their daughters/ sons at this age ? How did things turn out, was your gut feeling right ? I know they are young and there are lots of hormones flying about but dd was heartbroken over last relationship and I don't want her to be hurt so quickly again after last time. I also don't want her in an emotionally charged relationship :-(
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