I'm at my wits end with DS and school.
He has always struggled, he's just ending year 9 and is currently in bottom set for most subjects. After much pushing they finally assessed him for dyslexia only to then 'fail' him by 0.1 and tell us he wasn't dyslexic and they would give him more homework so he could 'catch up.' Trying to get him to do any homework is like trying to bath a cat.
He currently averages 3-4 detentions a week, generally for talking, shouting out or forgetting equipment. I have tried everything, punishing him at home, taking electronics off him, grounding him but he still gets the detentions. He genuinely gets upset if I pull him up on it, saying he's frustrated because he's stupid, thick and he can't do the work and he can't concentrate so he talks and shouts out and then they send him out and give him a detention.
I have been into the school but found the general consensus is because he's not 'naughty enough' he's just disruptive he's kind of in a grey area just coasting along and needs to try harder. I'm sure he could try harder, but he just gets upset and tells me he's thick and he can't do it. He's a lot better one-to-one with no distractions but obviously this isn't possible in class.
I'm starting to worry about his GCSE's and his future and I don't know where to go next, I've been googling home schooling but I don't know enough about it to take the plunge. In general school life with his peers he's popular and happy and funnily enough his PE which is the only thing he enjoys is working at year 11 level. Probably because it's the only subject where he can use his energy and not get told off!
Please be gentle, I feel out of my depth and lost like I'm failing him.
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At my wits end with DS14 and school
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Casander · 18/06/2019 14:14
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