My 17 year old son has recently made some new friends, through Instagram and also yubo i think, the problem is it's becoming very time consuming for him!
A bit out backstory, he has Aspergers (at mainstream school and doesn't need support there)and he's quite immature, he does have what he considers to be a couple of friends but rarely sees anyone outside of school. He would like a girlfriend but in real life, he's quite socially awkward and so as much as he'd like a big group of friends, he doesn't have this.
He's very secretive and doesn't chat to us about things that are going on his life, for example I don't know the names of anyone in his class.
So...he's made some female friends online, which in one way is good because he's getting experience talking to girls, these girls have issues (after much cajoling he told me this, think mh) and they live in the US. They often chat on something like a FaceTime groupbut it's always late at night for hours, he's even been heard to be in the phone at 5am! Since he's made these friends he's been even more distant from us, he generally spends as much time as possible in his bedroom, he's been rude and more ungrateful, disrespectful than usual. When i asked him to do homework last weekend i heard one of the girls say 'you don't need to do it '.
Well done if you're still following this! I'm just feeling that these friends are encouraging his isolation, making it even more difficult to motivate him to do school work and keeping him up half the night. The last few nights I've made him putr his phone outside his room at 11pm, which he's been really argumentative about but i can't trust him to leave his phone alone at night. But I'm wondering am I treating him too young? I always feel like he's very vulnerable in friendship, he's so gullible and will do whatever anyone else says rather than what we say.
I feel like our relationship has gone way off track and i feel so negative towards him because he's so bloody rude and ungrateful for the amount I do for him, how do i make this better?
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lennonj · 04/04/2019 16:18
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