Sorry to join up and be asking for help straight away!
My daughter is 15, 16 end of April, and has met a 17, nearly 18 year old boy last October. He is autistic and is very different to her, he is withdrawn, she is outgoing and bubbly. When she first went round to his house we talked to her beforehand and said she’d need to be careful as he was 17 and might be wanting to do more than she ought to be doing. She came back with a love bite!
We weren’t happy about this and she said it happened by accident, since then we have made sure she sees him in public places, such as cinema, shopping, or him coming to our house, we have let them go in another room but not in her bedroom.
Fast forward to yesterday, She was supposed to be staying with her female friend. When I texted her friends mum saying thanks for having her she said her daughter was away and my daughter was not staying there, cue about 60 calls trying to get her to answer, husband trying to remember the road where he’d dropped off the boyfriend some months previously and getting more and more stressed. He lives in a different area of the city. Eventually got her home safe when she eventually looked at her phone hours later and called us.
She is very upset, we are upset because she has lied to us and done this, and we are very worried about her. I don’t know what to do because I don’t want to push her away but also don’t want her making mistakes she might regret. I’m trying to keep her safe without wrapping her with cotton wool we’ve tried to compromise and let her see him but it’s come to this.
We’ve always had a close relationship between us parents and her, but she is becoming more withdrawn in her room texting him and on group chat. I don’t want to push her away and her be wanting to leave home at 16!
Has anyone else had experience of this, or anyone able to offer any advice please?
Thankyou!
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Animalmad123 · 10/03/2019 10:20
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