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Groping in not taken seriously.

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BeautifulPascal Sat 26-Jan-19 12:54:10

My daughter (13) has been groped in the playing field at school. I have complained to the school where a male member of staff asked her what happened (while staring over a desk) and explained that as she did not know who the assailant was there was nothing they could do. Fair enough, but now if it happens again she will not bother to report it and the boy will know he can get away with such behaviour. I expected the school to issue a statement giving a strong message that such behaviour was unacceptable and possibly asking for witnesses. I am interested to know what similar experiences from this or other schools.

[Post edited by MNHQ to remove name of school]

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Oldraver Sat 26-Jan-19 14:01:05

I'm not having a go at you, but I hate the term 'groping' being used (I have used it myself to describe behaviour toward myself).

It is sexual assault. I think you need a meeting with school and ask them what they are going to do about your DD being sexually assaulted on their premises in front of staff

MIdgebabe Sat 26-Jan-19 14:06:54

How does she not know who?

RCohle Sat 26-Jan-19 15:24:25

The thing is many, many teenage girls would not want it to be widely known at school that they had been the victim of sexual assault.

So whilst I think the school should of course have investigated the matter much more throughly (eg questioning other children who were present at the time) I think making a blanket request for witnesses would be a very problematic approach.

Have you escalated this within the school or involved the police?

I must say I think publicly naming the school without at least following their internal complaint process may not be the most helpful approach.

Perfectly1mperfect Sat 26-Jan-19 15:30:46

How does she not know who?

confused Most secondary school have 1000+ pupils, it's unlikely any child knows everyone.

OP. This is obviously unacceptable. The school should investigate, find if there were any witnesses and do anything else they can to find out who it was and exactly what happened. Ask for a meeting with the relevant person and go from there.

I hope your daughter is ok.

MollyHuaCha Sat 26-Jan-19 15:35:56

Poor girl. She needs to know that it's not her fault and she is (sadly) not alone in this happening to her.

goldengummybear Sat 26-Jan-19 18:11:10

* How does she not know who?*

This is a human girl who doesn't have eyes in the back of her head.

MIdgebabe Sat 26-Jan-19 18:44:27

Most people would look round , even if she doesn’t know who , a description may be usefu and someth8ng to take to the police. IT may not have even been a pupil

BeautifulPascal Sun 27-Jan-19 10:00:56

Hi, Thank you for responses. It was an older boy with brown hair. When I was at I pretty much only knew the names of the children in my year.

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BeautifulPascal Sun 27-Jan-19 10:09:32

Hi, Yes I've reported to police and have asked the staff member for a copy of report which I'm assuming was logged after talking with DD. The staff member did not inform me that he had a meeting with my daughter regarding the incident and I was given no feedback as to what decision had been made. I only discovered this meeting had taken place much later when my DD told me about it. Depending on what is in this report I may escalate to Governors and/or LEA.

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Northernparent68 Mon 28-Jan-19 17:53:08

Why should nt a male member of staff deal with it, and why should nt he behind a desk ?

dawn96 Wed 06-Feb-19 21:04:23

Schools do nothing about this I was harassed multiple times a day girls love it (not all especially not me) could be anything from a bra strap ping to putting a hand up my top or even upskirting ,School did nothing can’t imagine it’s any stricter than 6 years ago when I was there ☹️

Sicario Wed 06-Feb-19 21:18:59

Escalate it. Report it. Be that lioness mother that scares the shit out of the school. Support your daughter. She has been violated. This is the kind of thing that gives us women (and girls) The Rage. Sending love and solidarity to you and your family.

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