Hi,
Dd (almost17), has always been treated with respect from us, taught right from wrong, given our love and attention, yet she thinks she can regularly ask for things and if we decline, she goes into a hissy fit.
She doesn’t seem to understand that you don’t have to have a large birthday celebration for every single birthday. She simply says she will be having a large group of friends to do some kind of celebrating every year. We paid for her and a friend to have a spa day last year and I guess she will be wanting to do something for her 18th next year. I just don’t understand where all of this want comes from.
We are ok financially but never spoilt her, just because. She doesn’t have a job any more and won’t give up her dancing on Saturday mornings...meaning there are very few Saturday jobs she can do.
She suffers with quite serious social anxiety so we have said ok to no job at the moment with her focussing on her A Levels, as long as she doesn’t take the pee asking for stuff.
I tried to chat to her about degree courses today and she seems to think she can do a 3 or 4 Yr degree, followed by another 2 Yr course at college to get further quals! She just seems out of touch with reality but when I try to talk to her about it all, she gets really snippy and yells at me.
In addition, I mentioned her having more responsibility at home as she does very little to help me. She replied that because I don’t currently work, everything in the house is my job!
She doesn’t bring her washing down, doesn’t ever off to hoover, dust, clean her own en suite etc. She will bring her cups down if I ask her....but only when she is next coming down.
At her age, I helped bring in shopping for my mum, did ironing if the basket was full, made my bed,fed the pets, hoovered, dusted if asked etc.
She just seem to want to live in the real world.
Any advice on how I can get her to talk calmly about it all. Can anyone recommend any good books either she or I could read? I want her to be helpful and kind, not a lazy little monkey who thinks she is immune to normality."
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Verbena37 · 29/12/2018 15:57
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