I am struggling of late with DS1 (13 years, July born)
He gets himself to school on time, does his homework, tries at school, behaves himself etc, which I am thrilled about and very proud of, but at home he is driving me insane.
What I am finding difficult is the fact he will happily lope around the house in his underpants all day, wrapped in his duvet, because our house is on the cool side despite heating being on (ancient, draughty Victorian villa) as he is too lazy to actually put any clothes on. He leaves plates, bowls, cups etc everywhere. If I ask him to tidy his room he will act like it's the end of the world. If I suggest could he just load or unload the dishwasher for me it's like a scene from Kevin & Perry with all the passive aggressive sighing and huffing and puffing.
He has a very entitled attitude about everything. He thinks he can help himself to my iPad when he feels like it. He locked his iPhone accidentally and now just expects me to go and pay to get it unlocked though he helps with nothing to earn it being unlocked.
DS2 (12) seems to be maturing at a rate of knots which only highlights it all further. He can see what needs doing and will offer to help sometimes.
DS1 is very sensitive too and when I try to gently broach things with him he ends up upset which I really don't like. I realise I also let things slide sometimes to spare the upset which I know is only going to make it worse.
I don't need a massive bashing about how crap I'm doing at parenting, I just wondered if anyone's else's 13yo boy is similar in any way and how to go about sorting it.
Do I endure the upset and just be harder on him?
Anyone with older teens recognise this as a phase? I'm just lost with it. I love the bones of my kids and want to do the best for them but at the moment I wish they came with a manual. 🤔
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LadyOfTheFlowers · 16/12/2018 09:59
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