My DD has been with her 16 yr old boyfriend for about 8 months. I have tried to talk to her previously re sex however was shut down. I discovered this week that they are having sex and using condoms. I asked her again and initially she lied to me then apologised and told me.
I am feeling much more upset and angry about this than I thought I would. I had a conversation with her yesterday about contraception and she told me that school told her that condoms are 98% safe and how was she supposed to go and get the pill? I asked her what would happen if the condom failed and she said she would 'just take a pill', I then asked her what would happen if she fell pregnant, she told me 'I would just have an abortion'. This was a balanced conversation it was all said very matter of fact .
I accept that there is nothing I can do about them having sex and that many teenagers do it. In my view she isn't mature enough for this but I am now in a position where I have to get on with it. We also had a conversation about staying over at each others houses and she couldn't understand why I don't want this to happen.
I'm not sure what I'm asking here really, just anyone elses experience and how they handled this - what worked for you.
I don't want her to go on the pill but again can't see any other option.
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Sex and contraception 15 yr old DD - so disappointed
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lostcity · 03/11/2018 10:08
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