Just woke up to find a 2am text from 17yo ds. He's on a course that he was desperate to do. Apparently he and some others were caught out of their rooms after lights-out. Penalty is instant sending home. Doesn't yet know whether that will happen.
He knew the rules. He broke them. He needs to take responsibility for his actions. His text implies that he understands this.
But I am torn. While I firmly believe what I've said above, I want ds to know that we will always have his back. Yet I don't think that this is a situation in which I should fight for him.
He's a very black-and-white thinker. Very bright, very rigid. He needs to learn his own lessons, and far better that he do so by getting chucked off this course than off a university course.
But if he were at risk of something major like that, I would definitely fight his corner, even if he'd been stupid- but I would need him to tell me about it in time so that I could support him. Ds has a bit of a history of trying to deal with things himself, not understanding that support is available. And also either not realising that he'd done something stupid, or thinking that he'd done something stupid but not realising that it was actually a perfectly reasonable mistake to make.
So I'm really not sure how to play this, what to say if the director contacts me. And how dh and I should behave to ds.
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JellySlice · 15/08/2018 07:48
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