DS 14 has had a girlfriend for a few months, she is also 14. She seems very nice but has major anxiety issues - can't eat food away from home, gets panic attacks, has OCD.
DS is a kind and caring lad but I am worried that he is trying to take on too much.
GF and DS were supposed to be on a youth camp together this week. GF had a panic attack yesterday and is not going, she was in floods of tears saying she's ruined everything. DS reassured her, and after a lot of thought decided he would still go (other friends looking forward to seeing him). Now as he sets off GF is messaging him begging him not to go, imploring him to stay with her, and hinting she'll do something silly/hurt herself if he goes. DS is beside himself and is deeply worried, he also feels awful now about going.
I don't know how to handle this or how to advise DS.
I'm also a bit concerned about the future. When they go into yr 10 I think DS will need to concentrate on school work a bit more, and GF won't help with that at all (she is home-ed and there does not seem to be any structure). He already spends every waking moment on the phone messaging her when he isn't actually with her, and has stopped doing any of the activities he used to enjoy because GF doesn't like them.
do I just watch and wait? do I suggest to DS that he doesn't have to be her only source of support?
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MrsAird · 31/07/2018 10:21
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