Hi everyone
Does anyone have a view on this? Discussing school day with DD (12) this evening and she was upset because some boy at school is insisting on calling her names. She's not been able to shake him off and was worried that if she stood up to him he'd get his mates on to her.
She mentioned one kid in particular and said she "is scared" of him. They're all in her form (year 7). This rang an alarm with me and we talked about this some more and then she showed me her phone. We check through her phone regularly and we talk about how the kids talk to her - tbh I also use it as opportunity to have relationship chats - what not to put up with from boyfriends etc. Anyway, basically this kid has been bigging himself up on snapchat and is having a go at DD in front of her form. He is using foul language about her (f words galore) and threatened violence initially against another girl (not on snapchat). Said he wanted to run her face over with a lawnmower and also my DD's. Also making personal and nasty remarks about her appearance (although she is lovely). When DD stood up mildly for herself ("sez you" ... "look in the mirror" sort of thing), she was shouted down by his mates calling her a "stupid effing pr*" and to "STFU".
I'm pretty appalled by the language of 12 year olds but more that boys are ganging up on girls so aggressively. Also that the girls don't back her, but tbh I wouldn't expect them to as they'd become targets.
So I am going into school tomorrow to chat to the pastoral team and show them the snapchat to make them aware of this kid ... though am sure they may be already aware of him. DD says she feels he wants to thump her and she is scared of him and that's enough for me to go in. ... but is this the norm ??
Do any other mums check their kids phones and see this sort of thing? What are your opinions about all this? Grateful for your input y'all.
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Strotty · 18/07/2018 22:30
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