This is my first post on MN. I don't know how to best deal with my DS. He is 17 and has been a complete nightmare for the past 2 years. I feel like I could just give up on him as he is making mine and DH life unbearable. Bad attitude, drinking, smoking weed, rude, lazy. He has a part time job but getting him out of bed at 7.15am on a Saturday morning is so difficult. I dread the weekends. Every weekend ends up with an argument about his drinking or attitude. We are so worn down with it all. My own mental health and that of my DH is suffering badly. I love him so very much but he makes it so difficult. We have had so many talks and he has promised to change and it works for a week or two, then it is back to the same old crap time and time again.
He wont listen to us and seems to only want to spend time with his mates, who are not good influences. He has a GF but even she has had enough of him. I suspect she will end things soon as he kicked off at her last night in our house. She is worried about him too and I am worried if she dumps him he will go completely off the rails.
My DH is finding it so difficult, they used to do so much together and now DS doesn't want to do any of the outdoor activities he used to do. This breaks my DH heart and he misses the relationship they used to have.
I know people will think I should just hang in there but we have been dealing with this for 2 years now and I don't know if I have the energy for anymore. I am waiting on my dad to have a bypass operation and recently got some bad news about a friend who has cancer. I really don't need DS adding to worry and stress I am already dealing with.
Feel like a complete failure.
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WEEMICHY · 11/06/2018 12:38
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