Dd is 15. Today dh and I went to her swimming class, just to watch. I stood quietly behind a wall of the changing area and peeked out. Dd showed no awareness of our presence. She looked happy, engaged and confident. But when she came up to us on her way back to the changing area, her expression changed to fury. She was very angry with us because she had only been expecting dh to come. I had embarrassed her, had done something awful by coming when she had only expected dh. She went into a cubicle and the coach came up to us worried that something was wrong. By the time dh and I got to the cubicle (without the coach) dd was almost in hysterics - gulping breathless sobs of distress. She described it as a panic attack. TBH it didn't look like a panic attack to me, but she was genuinely distressed.
This sort of thing has happened before, but rarely so extreme.
Another thing I don't get: dd hates me calling her name in public. If, say, we're in the town precinct, and I see her waiting for us and looking in the wrong direction, my instinct is to call her name, but that makes her very angry. Recently I was looking for her in a service station, so I went into the loos and called her name. Then I remembered that she hates me doing this, so instead I called her by the nickname that everyone except me uses. No answer, so I told dh she was not in the loos. We were getting worried when dd came out of the loos. She had heard me, but had refused to answer because I had called out loud. She wouldn't or couldn't explain why.
What's going on? What is upsetting her?
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JellySlice · 30/05/2018 21:51
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