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Grief striken(7 Posts)
My eldest is in her 1st year of A-levels, in her first serious relationship and going to Uni next year. A grief like feeling hit like a train a couple of months ago at the thought of her being grown up and moving away, seems daft as this is what I have been preparing her for. But I obviously haven't done a very good job of preparing myself!! Not looking for Advice, I can't be the only one to feel like this?
My DS1 currently in last year of A levels will hopefully go to Uni September. I know exactly what you mean, I feel sick at the thought of him moving out.
He's chosen a lovely university about an hour away and I had to stop myself from persuading him to stay at home and commute. I know he'll have an amazing experience, I know it's good for him and what we've spent the last 18 years preparing him for but......
Not just me then, thanks for the reply
This sums it up for me. It is so common to feel like this (and a bit unacknowledged - as in you are supposed to feel glad they are grown up properly etc). My youngest will go to college in 2019 and that is the end of my house as a home bustling with school lifts and homework and dinners together and me and dh at the centre of it all. It will be different and different might be good too - even better - but I think it is ok to feel sorry at the loss of such a significant chapter of our lives. I have been a mother utterly focused on day to day minding/helping/shepherding my children for 22 years - longest I have ever done anything (I worked also through all of that time as did dh but our homelife was focused on our children, their activities, needs, friends etc). I will miss it.
But dh points out that we have known each other longer than that and married for a reason - we like each other a lot so who knows what good times lie ahead.
Hi it's quite normal for many of us. My son is in his first year at Uni and I really struggled when he left, I still miss him but it's not so intense,it gets better and him being so happy and doing well has helped.
I was worried about when he came home he would feel like a visitor but he fits right back in and it's like he's never been away and FaceTime helps.
There's a very good group over in higher education called " working our way through first year" or something like that. It's hard letting go.
It’s completely understandable to feel like that, I know I will be the same when the time comes.
Thanks for the article, it really struck home (made me cry a little 😂😣).
Good to know there is some support, I will look up the group, thanks.
I was 18 when I had her so we've grown up together and have a unique relationship. I will still have another teen and toddler at home to keep me busy!!