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Filthy13 year old DD wearing my make up(21 Posts)
Ok I won’t trouble you with a description of my DD’s filthy, unhygienic bedroom and ways.
She has recently turned 13 and last week she has started trying to wear make up for school as a lot of girls at school and in her football team do. I bought her some bits to try last year after she had played blind make up with some friends who were into make up with my expensive make up.
She fell out with those friends and hasn’t touched make up since and only has a couple of friends she sees at school doesn’t see them out of school. Anyway two days end of last week she had obviously tried her hand at contouring for school.
Goodness knows what she had used I strongly suspect my expensive foundation as a base which looked (ok although she has a cheap one of her own) but I think she must have used some sort of fake tan or maybe even my Clarins Radiance-Plus Glow Booster neat for darker contour which has stained her cheeks and is still slightly visible even today!!! Although she denies all knowledge of applying any make up mine or hers but it’s perfectly obvious she had some on.
Shall I buy her a contouring kit and what wouldn’t be too heavy handed and if so which one (she is fairly pale lovely English Rose skin) to keep her off my make up or something like a subtle benefit dandelion wishes kit? Also what would you recommend for skin care I have bought various things in the past but she doesn’t use them for their intended purpose and trying to get her to clean her teeth, wash her face and brush her hair is normally an uphill struggle.
I remember doing this! My mum hit the roof after I trashed her fancy bronzing pearls (it was the 90s!)
She took me to the make up counters in Debenhams and got them to show me how to apply certain things, then went to Boots and bought me a Seventeen make up kit. It was actually a really lovely bonding session.
Could you also maybe book a cheapish facial/or do your own at home together and explain how important good skin care etc is?
Thanks catography - yes I have tried explaining about skincare and her a facial and played elevator music at home last half term although she wasn’t keen (she is quite immature and has a brother so doesn’t like to admit to liking make up or growing up etc. she quite enjoyed it.
Fab idea about going to Debenhams then nipping to Boots will try that thanks.
Anyone got any advice on what products to buy from Boots.
I only really wear blusher everyday and save full make up for special occasions which are fed and far between. Thanks
What do you mean by reverse orangesticker?
i would book her a teen make up session at a bobby brown counter. I took my niece and they were fabulous-went on about how immacualte her skin was and how she didn't need to cover it up with heavy foundation. Did lovely subtle make up-taight her about skin care etc
If she's going to wear makeup but is a bit slap dash about hygiene, buy her Garnier micellar water.
Cheap as chips, will quickly remove loads of makeup without really trying so ideal for sink dodgers
Assuming you're in the UK - go to superdrug and look for the Makeup Revolution brand - they do great pallets and kits for a reasonable price to. My teenagers use them all the time 😊
Makeup remover wipes are a godsend too for my teenagers !
MUA is in super drug and is great but reasonable.
Thanks for all the tips Bobbi Brown sounds fab but we don’t have one anywhere near. Fortunately DD takes after me has good skin and like me I doubt she would be prepared to devote loads of time and effort to use full make up everyday and I wouldn’t really want to encourage this anyway. I will look in Debenhams and then nip to Boots Superdrug I think and invest in some gentle cleansing make up wipes.
I took my 13 year old daughter to Harvey Nicks to the Benefit Counter and had a mother and daughter session. It was free of charge and we got a discount if we bought any items. It was a really good proper introduction to make up and I was very keen for my very very pale daughter to understand the importance of having a foundation that is the correct shade. She did become a bit addicted to makeup counters in any large store and was forever managing to get sales assistants to do her makeup for her but she learnt a lot. For Christmas she got urban decay naked which she treasures along with Estée Lauder lipsticks and benefit mascara. She really looks after it as she knows it won't be replaced if she wastes it and she uses wipes to remove and now moustorises religiously. I can't recommend enough using the sales assistants at the various counters, they always made time for her but only if I was with her (obviously thinking I was willing to pay and she wasn't just time wasting) but she took on board what they said and her personal hygiene really improved and she now looks after her skin very carefully.
13? She spends two hours cleaning her room, then you take her to Primark and give her a tenner to spend on makeup.
God at 13 your skin is usually so lovely of doesn't need 3inches of foundation and contouring (though I'm not really sure what that is! Is it shading?).
Lock up the good stuff and buy her the good old Barry M for her to play with. Maybe go to a store with a nice makeup counter for advice - selfridges has some good ones.
Contouring is painting bits of your face darker to try to achieve a trompe-l'oeil (so?) cheekbones, straight nose, good chin and narrow temples effect.
It was invented by make up artists for use in fashion photography.
In real life the effect ranges from grubby to comical to unnerving. Google 'bad contour make up' to be unnerved. After years of working with teenagers I am still not used to it.
Bit don't you risk ending up looking like creighton from red dwarf?
I second palettes like Revolution and MUA front Superdrug to experiment with as well as other well known basic brands. Maybe spend a bit more time on getting the right foundation and concealer or a tinted moisturiser in the right shade for her skin. Eyebrows are also a thing and the bigger the better as far as I can see There are lots of bloggers and tutorials available online. Teens these days are generally a hundred times better at make up than my friends and I were back in the day.
Micellar water....the garnier one with pink lid and cotton wool is much cheaper and actually better than wipes. Not to mention more envionmentally friendly than those 'flushable ' wipes.
Nyx makeup is available in some bigger boots and is fab and reasonably priced.
Thanks all. She doesn’t really need make up but has been experimenting this week. She would have absolutely no idea what to buy and doesn’t have any friends or an older cousin to go shopping with. I’ll take on board all suggestions and go with her. My mum was never interested and I think I bought my first eyeshadow silver/grey in late 70’s on my own in Cosmi-cuts cheap toiletry shop with my paper money as my mum was never interested in make up.
Contouring always looks like kryten, and did when we tried it from 'Jackie' in the 1980s. Brown stripes don't change the shape of your nose any more than a coloured scarf makes you look thinner.
How delightfully retro :-)