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Is this normal for school proms?

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FiveHoursSleep Thu 08-Mar-18 14:43:42

DD1 is now in Y11 and there is Talk of the school prom. She's at a girls' school, so it's held with the boys' school but they parents organising have booked a venue that will only allow 200 tickets to be sold.
There are over 360 Y11 pupils in the two schools so that means a lot of the kids are going to miss out.
The tickets are being sold first in, first served tomorrow lunchtime at school so it's going to be quite a ruck.
DD1 is ambivalent about going but her friends really want to, so she's going to try and get a ticket, but someone is going to miss out. I know some people won't want to go but that's a large number who won't be able to.
Is this how it's normally done?

BigSandyBalls2015 Thu 08-Mar-18 15:09:21

Nope not normal at my DDs school. Everyone had a chance to go - although there were exceptions for bad behaviour/bad attendance (truanting rather than ill health)

AnneOfCleavage Thu 08-Mar-18 15:32:01

At my DD's school only those who have done the required 40+ hours of online learning (on top of their normal homework) can go to the prom. This will rule out quite a few of the students but sort the chaff from the wheat as it were.

FiveHoursSleep Thu 08-Mar-18 16:14:51

It sounds like some schools do attach conditions to their proms which is fair enough, I guess.

onlyonaTuesday Thu 08-Mar-18 17:40:47

When Dd2 was at school, prom tickets were only sold to pupils with attendance above 97%

AnneOfCleavage Thu 08-Mar-18 20:19:23

Oh yes, attendance is a factor too. Has to be above 96/97% I think.

TheFallenMadonna Thu 08-Mar-18 20:26:16

No, it's not usual to do a first come first serve ticketing. Nor is it usual for parents to organise it.

TheSecondOfHerName Thu 08-Mar-18 20:27:42

From the level of enthusiasm shown by DS2 and his friends, I'm not sure that the tickets allocated to the boys will sell out, so perhaps the girls will be allowed to buy the leftover tickets from the boys' allocation.

Caulk Thu 08-Mar-18 20:28:56

Ours limits tickets too. It’s done mainly because they need the money up front to pay for stuff!

It’s also 97% attandence and on track with various behaviour stuff too

EduCated Thu 08-Mar-18 20:29:20

That does seem unreasonably low - that’s not far off half that won’t be able to go. As you say, some won’t, but seems harsh to put such a limit on it. Large venues are understandably difficult to find/expensive, but still.

TheFallenMadonna Thu 08-Mar-18 20:32:51

Only three students in DS's year chose not to go. Another missed it through illness. There were no restrictions based on attendance or behaviour. It was an absolutely lovely end to their time in the school.

TheFallenMadonna Thu 08-Mar-18 20:33:25

And it was done at the school, not a different venue.

TheFallenMadonna Thu 08-Mar-18 20:34:25

I know other schools have restriction. I like very much that my DC's doesn't.

happymummy12345 Thu 08-Mar-18 20:36:38

When I was at school every student in year 11 had the opportunity to go if they wanted.

TheSecondOfHerName Thu 08-Mar-18 20:38:56

When DS1 was in Y11 (two years ago) the prom was held at a picturesque venue (a mansion on a hill) in which had enough room for everyone. He wasn't sure whether he would go or not, but I bought him a ticket in case he decided to go. He decided a week before the prom that he would go, and he had a great time. One girl arrived riding her horse!

FiveHoursSleep Thu 08-Mar-18 21:42:23

They have changed the allocation to names pulled out of a hat. It's probably fairer but DD1 is distraught about the thought of some of her friendship group going and others not. FOMO in action.
At least she hasn't bought her dress!

BlessYourCottonSocks Thu 08-Mar-18 21:47:33

Sounds horrendous. I am a Y11 tutor and the Y11 prom committee organise the event (with approval/input from HoY). Nothing to do with parents - they do not get involved; this is a school event.

And there is room for every pupil who wishes to attend. I would question any school who allowed parents to organise a prom that only some students could attend.

As a matter of interest, what if the parents who are organising it discover that none of their children 'win' a ticket? Or will they be given one automatically because Mummy is the organiser?

TheSecondOfHerName Thu 08-Mar-18 22:01:45

They have changed the allocation to names pulled out of a hat.

I hope they don't do that for DD's year. She has three close friends. If DD was the only one of the four with a ticket, she probably wouldn't go. If the other three had a ticket and not her, she'd be really upset.

What a minefield!

FiveHoursSleep Thu 08-Mar-18 22:02:02

The children of the organisers are given a ticket automatically. I am a little annoyed by that.

pointythings Thu 08-Mar-18 22:05:42

No limit at our school. Attendance has to be over 95% but illness reported by parent isn't counted so children who have been ill don't miss out. Behaviour does have to meet standards though.

TheSecondOfHerName Thu 08-Mar-18 22:06:53

The children of the organisers are given a ticket automatically.

Will the names be picked out of the hat by the girls on the prom committee? The cynic in me is wondering how randomised the process will be.

BlessYourCottonSocks Thu 08-Mar-18 22:12:25

I would be speaking to the school about it - this is not a Y11 school prom. This is a private party organised by the parents of some Y11s.

GreenTulips Thu 08-Mar-18 22:12:45

This will rule out quite a few of the students but sort the chaff from the wheat as it were

How horrible! All the kids att me school and will be a leaving event - so presumably all will be leaving?

What a shot way to trgo at people!

If this was a works event there'd be uproar .... poor kids

GreenTulips Thu 08-Mar-18 22:13:22


acornsandnuts Thu 08-Mar-18 22:16:53

I find the attendance exclusion bloody horrible. So a pupil who has had an illness or surgery or injury is excluded from prom. Madness.

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