DD(12) is a very good dancer (had small professional and semi-professional jobs and been part of companies, and might want to go into it professionally as an adult). Every summer I let her go to various dance summer schools (she asks for them for her birthday. We live in London, and usually they’re either somewhere in London so she comes from home, somewhere residential so she just stays there, or in Leeds where her godparents live so she stays with them.
This year she has sent in a video audition for a five week intensive in New York. My first concern is that it would mean missing the last 2 weeks of school (she’s in year 8), but she has pointed out that not much happens at that point in the year and her big assessments have already been scheduled for May so won’t be taking place then.
My second concern is that while she will be able to stay with our family friends (who live a ten minute walk from where this dance intensive will take place, in central New York), she doesn’t know the city like she knows, for example, Leeds, and it’s so much bigger and further away. She knows this family very well (as do I) so we know they’d look after her.
She hasn’t got a place yet but I want to be ready with a decision and idea of what to say if she does, so I can hold my line. Part of me thinks it sounds like a great experience, but also part of me wonders if she’s too young. The course is for 11-15 year olds, so she could always go next year/the year after, but then missing 2 weeks of school might become more problematic.
I just want to get a feel of what others would do in this situation - just to give me some frames and work out what seems reasonable. She’s so independent sometimes that I forget she’s only twelve!! (She’ll be 13 in August)
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.
Teenagers
Should I let 12yo daughter do this?
14 replies
TabbyTigger · 16/02/2018 09:51
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.