I've reached the end of my rope with my 13yo dd, literally can't take any more
Her behaviour has been slowly escalating for a couple of years but it has gotten much worse in the last year. A year ago I had to ban her from spending time with her dad as he was being abusive towards her. She has always said in this time that I was being unfair and "ott" but I stood firm. Situation has now changed and over the last few months we have been slowly building up contact.
So she's completely disrespectful towards me most days and I can't cope anymore. She behaves like she's the adult at times. Trying to tell me what the plans are etc. If she doesn't get what she wants she becomes really nasty by saying no wonder her dad left me. No wonder I don't have many friends. These types of things. She has been caught drinking alcohol twice last year. Treats the house like a hotel and me like a maid. Her bedroom is a health hazard and she constantly just takes my things such as toiletries and makeup. She called me a cow when I hid my expensive makeup from her. Anytime I lose my temper she threatens to tell her dad. Icould go on.
Tonight for once I thought we had had a nice night with pizza and a film. Then she asks to see dad tomorrow but I've already made plans for us . Then she starts on me. Calling me nasty pathetic a loser no friends. I snapped just totally snapped. Told her to pack up all her stuff and I'll get her dad to pick her up tomorrow. I can't go on like this coz I feel like I'm living with an abusive bully. I walk on eggshells as I can never tell what mood she'll be in. I have anxiety and have been having terrible palpitations a lot.
I know I'll get completely flamed but she needs to go. I can't cope with her anymore. I know I'm potentially sending her into an environment which can be volatile at times and she's at risk of being screamed at regularly. But I've tried everything I can from discipline punishment bribery but she's so wilful. Am I setting her up for misery? Will sending her away damage her? I feel like I'll end up mentally damaged if she stays, feel I'm heading for possible hospitalisation like I say please please don't flame me, I'm feeling so beaten down just now can't cope with a virtual beating too. Feel I've failed as a parent and I'll definitely fall by sending her away but I don't know how I'll cope with parenting her much longer. I love her but I really don't like who she's becoming.
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brokenrightdown · 11/02/2018 01:19
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11/02/2018 10:07
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