So dd1 is 14 and in Yr 10. She is pushing all the boundaries.
Last Feb we had a whole shitstorm open up when I was away for a (much needed, rare) weekend away with my OH (who isn’t new and doesn’t live with me). She basically told her dad she was sleeping at a friends and had a kids-only sleep over at mine. Place was a mess when I got back. I later discovered boys had been over also. dd lost her Smart phone for 4 months (pretty ineffective actually, I would not do again).
Have been trying to pick my battles and retain a relationship with her. Things have been ok recently. She is the kind of girl who is socially confident and knows what she wants to do with her mates, can be head strong etc. We still have the odd issue and I immediately deal with it and we always discuss whys and wherefors when she slips up. She’s 15 in a couple of months. But totally doesn’t think and is (clearly) rubbish at covering her tracks....
Fast forward to now, things are ok, just been away again and my neighbour texted to say your extension window is wide open and back door unlocked. She had been here again, this time for the afternoon. Obviously no party, only haribo wrappers to be seen.
I can’t decide whether this warrants removal of front door key privileges (dd2 is always home before dd1 so she can’t manage without) or just treat as final warning and if something like this happens again she will lose her key?
Obviously I’ll have a discussion with her about how wrong and thoughtless it was leaving the house totally un secured while I’m not around. And about how it made me feel.
I didn’t tell her I was away this weekend but I guess she could have worked it out. On occasions when I’m around she always asks to bring friends round. So this sort of behaviour only happens when I’m not around.
Obviously this particular loophole only happens with co parents when kids live between 2 houses.
Lone parents. WWYD?
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HipsterAssassin · 16/01/2018 10:41
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