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Sexxtalk and teenage dd

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AntiBi · 02/12/2017 14:28

Dd1 is 16 and starting to go out to parties.

I feel it would be good to provide her with condoms (just in case). Any tips on how to approach this? I don't want her to be hugely embarrassed but how can I broach this? I m pretty sure she isn't sexually active yet.

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ragged · 02/12/2017 19:43

Ah, I was thinking about advising my DD about contraception today, too! She has met up with a boy who suddenly appeared on the scene. DD is coming home very late [fume]. Our chat may need to happen sooner than I thought... I am going to advise her to try an implant AND make sure condoms are accessible.

The only thing more disgusting than thinking about your parents' sex life is thinking about your kids DTD, sigh.

If it's really awkward, I think I'd start with "I find this just as awkward as you, but I'd be an irresponsible parent if I didn't try to talk about this with you." and go from there.

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ragged · 02/12/2017 22:19

Oh dear.. we just had THAT conversation. At least, I recommended an implant & told her that she is old enough to go to FamPlan clinic without me (but should go with a friend, I suggested).

She's all gooey because she put her head on his shoulder & they held hands! So then I weirdly come out with the serious stuff. But is a sensible girl, didn't mind me saying that I had to risk having this conversation much too early rather than a little too late.

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MaitlandGirl · 02/12/2017 22:57

I’ve also just had that conversation with my teen daughter - further complicates by a strong family history of neural tube defects so had to have the “you must also take high dose folic acid” talk as well.

I tried to get my DD to take responsibility for her health and visit the GP alone but she seems to want me to know everything so I went with her!

I’ve told her that there are worse things that come from unprotected sex than a baby and that at least babies eventually leave home, but HIV / AIDS is there for life.

We’re lucky as her boyfriends mum is very proactive with her son and has reinforced to him the importance of doubling up on contraception and that condoms must be used.

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