DS (13) has stolen a £20 from the house. It accidentally ended up in the washing machine so I had left it on the side to dry. I had a conversation at the time with him about it, so he know without shadow of a doubt it’s mine. It’s 1/4 of our weekly shopping bill it’s a significant amount of money to us.
For information, DS is given £3 everyday lunch money but this week was given £10 to last 3 days lunch.
I’ve checked with DH he says it was in the kitchen this morning when he was making breakfast and he hasn’t taken it.
There is only the 2 and 4 yr olds who don’t really care about money and the 10 yr old who might have taken it (5% chance maybe?) but he doesn’t have the opportunity to take it and spend it and isn’t all that money driven.
DS1 is very money driven and walks past Tesco on his way to school every morning. We have spoken time and time again to him because he ‘buys’ friendship and status with sweets and drinks for his mates pre/post school.
So. I don’t know what to do, DS lies by default about everything especially if confronted and put on the spot. I know that if I confront him he will deny it and I will end up getting so angry which will just lead to further shut down from him.
So far I have text him to say, DS, the £20 from the kitchen has gone. If you have taken it as a silly mistake in judgment then I won’t be home until x, you may return it to the kitchen and no more will be said. If you have taken it and spent it (this is likely) then I would appreciate your honesty. If this isn’t resolved then it will be taken further.
Everyone makes mistakes so this is your chance to show that you can make a good choice today.
I know he will have spent it or part of it and I’m hoping with time to think he’ll admit it but DS would tell you the sky is green and stick to his guns no matter what so I’m not sure if it will work.
We’ve had this in the past with him taking his siblings lunchbox food out the fridge and cupboard and then denying it, this seems like an escalation and a further two finger salute to anything we try and do with/for him.
I certainly don’t want him to get away with it even if he won’t admit it. I’ll obviously be keeping money firmly away from temptation form now on!
Any advice please?
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How to handle DS stealing money?
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TitsalinaBumSqoosh · 18/10/2017 14:34
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