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Nearly 18 year old ds walked in on me and Dhabi dtd last night

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lifesgivenmelemons Sun 15-Oct-17 10:00:19

Have name changed for this,have been a longtime lurker but needed to tell someone about this and ask for advice.Ds is almost 18 he's had a good week this week passed an exam he was worried about and got a part time job so he went out with friends to celebrate.Me and dh have been having a rough time and I've been unwell so last night having the place to ourselves (which rarely happens) we decided to indulge in some quality time.
We put a blanket down in the front room lit some candles and everything got steamy very quickly. It was great until I heard a voice saying "what're you doing?" . I looked up to see ds standing at the door ,which was ajar, I screamed at him to get out and wrapped myself in a blanket. I was sure I'd locked the front door and left the keys in so he wouldn't walk in unannounced but he snook in like a stealth ninja. Dh went to talk to him while I tidied up. I did talk to him later and apologised for what he had seen and hope that he was ok. I haven't seen him yet today and later on we are hosting a big family gathering we have been looking forward to for ages. I'm feeling totally mortified.Tell me it'll all be ok ,please.

SparklyMagpie Sun 15-Oct-17 10:02:20

It'll all be ok

hippyhippyshake Sun 15-Oct-17 10:04:58

Seriously? He said what are you doing? hmm

KarateKitten Sun 15-Oct-17 10:05:19

What an idiot! Your DS, not you! I'm sure he knew what you were doing and the polite thing would have been to leave again or to nake noise in the hall to give you a chance to sort yourselves out.

He's the rude idiot here and if I was you I'd tease him about it if he makes a single step to embarrass you further. You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about!!!

HadloxB Sun 15-Oct-17 10:06:38

At 18 faced with a locked door and candles most nearly 18 yr olds would stomp around, announce their arrival and go upstairs. Not look round a door and say “what are you doing”

You’re not the one who did anything wrong here

Jigsisaw Sun 15-Oct-17 10:06:55

Don't apologise. Keep saying how you RARELY have the house to your selves.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Sun 15-Oct-17 10:07:23

It's like penis beaker all over again.

An 18 year old asked you what you were doing?

Jigsisaw Sun 15-Oct-17 10:07:51

And even when on the rare occasion you thought you had the house to yourself, you didn't .

He's a bit dumb. I used to hear quiet noises as a teen but I just ignored it.

TheVanguardSix Sun 15-Oct-17 10:12:12

"What are you doing?"
"Reliving what we did eighteen years ago to conceive you, dearest golden child."

Really, your DS is the weirdo here. Sorry OP! We all have mishaps but ffs he's old enough to know he didn't come from a pickle jar full of brine and baby dust.
I take it your boy doesn't do 'hints', which were all there for him to notice. He will take the hints from now on! A candle will never simply be a candle again. Scarred for life! grin

He'll be fine!!
Don't apologise. Sex is a totally, healthy part of our existence.

Coffeetasteslikeshit Sun 15-Oct-17 10:14:44

Of course it'll be OK. It's only sex; he saw you, it's a bit weird for you all, then it's forgotten.

AllPizzasGreatAndSmall Sun 15-Oct-17 10:19:19

I don't suppose he doesn't know they were having sex!
He probably meant what the hell were they doing shagging on the sitting room floor, which he had the misfortune of walking in on and seeing his parents in a position nobody wants to witness.

Slartybartfast Sun 15-Oct-17 10:22:31

no reason to apologise.
this is your life op.

Alisvolatpropiis Sun 15-Oct-17 10:24:27

Agree with Pizza here. He is very, very unlikely to have literally not known what his Mum and dad were doing!

LavenderDoll Sun 15-Oct-17 10:31:57

He must have known what you were doing? Was he trying to embarrass you? I don't think you have anything to be embarrassed about

Rainybo Sun 15-Oct-17 10:41:14

Pizza has it spot on! He was more like wtf are you doing on the floor???? Then he ran away to bleach his eyes.

He may well have expected you’d be upstairs, but in the middle of the front room probably was beyond his imagination.

What should you do - make a joke of it and offer to pay for therapy/tell him that when he has children remember never to do it on the floor/say something like ‘let us never speak of this again’.

bigfatbumfreak Sun 15-Oct-17 10:43:07

Your 18 year old needs sex ed, stat.

KarateKitten Sun 15-Oct-17 10:43:42

Yeah maybe he genuinely thought 'why are they playing twister in the dark' or 'are they having a candlelit picnic?'. In that case, he's just learned a valuable lesson about his own naivetygrin

Crack on OP!

DiggyDiggyHole Sun 15-Oct-17 10:48:26

So now you know. Want a shag anywhere, choose a place you can lock.
It’s a good lesson for your DS to learn.

DiggyDiggyHole Sun 15-Oct-17 10:49:20

Be grateful, he could have brought a friend or two home with him...

lifesgivenmelemons Sun 15-Oct-17 10:56:01

Thanks for your replies, I don't think he was being rude just shocked to find us at it on the living room floor, I'm sure he'll be more wary about walking into rooms unannounced from now on😬

DearMrDilkington Sun 15-Oct-17 11:02:57

It's really weird that he popped his head round the door. He obviously heard you both and knew what you were doing, why on earth did he need to look shock

Shutupanddance1 Sun 15-Oct-17 11:05:40

Em. Why didn't you lock the bloody door, surely you knew he'd be coming home? He was probably like 'wtf are you doing on the sitting room floor?'

gamerchick Sun 15-Oct-17 11:05:54

You haven’t done anything to warrant apologising for. Maybe fit a lock to the living room door.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Sun 15-Oct-17 12:23:56

Maybe just shag in your bedroom since you're sharing a house,would you like it if you came in to find him at it with someone in the front room?

themightybanhammer Sun 15-Oct-17 15:47:57

Your response should have been "trying to have sex without being disturbed", now sod off to your room were busy

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