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Christmas17 Sun 08-Oct-17 07:04:54

I need some help!!! I'm SO SO SAD, and I'm really struggling with these overwhelming feelings of helplessness.
My 14 year old daughter is really unhappy at school, she doesnt seem to have any real true friends, and I can't help her, because, if I'm truthful, she's brought alot of it on herself, and I feel really guilty for saying that!!!!!!

TiesThatBindMe Sun 08-Oct-17 07:09:27

What do you mean when you say that she brought it on herself?

Christmas17 Sun 08-Oct-17 07:29:20

She is a bit of a drama queen !! She gets herself into situations, that are not always healthy, and then , as a family, we have to pick up the pieces.Which, I understand is what we're supposed to do.But I find it so hard to cope with the heartache. However, underneath all that bravado, is a vulnerable teenager just needing to be liked, I was the same as a child.

TiesThatBindMe Sun 08-Oct-17 07:46:39

All a little too vague to comment really.

BeachysFlipFlops Sun 08-Oct-17 07:51:00

Maybe have a look through some advice websites like young minds.....
https://youngminds.org.uk/find-help/for-parents/parents-survival-guide/
They might help you talk to her to try to get to the bottom of how you are feeling....

DancesWithOtters Sun 08-Oct-17 07:56:20

What kind of situations OP? Are they so bad her friends want nothing to do with her?

BillywilliamV Sun 08-Oct-17 08:00:12

i am in exactly the same situation, my 14 year old is so judgemental and is always falling out with friends. No answers but you're not alone. She is happy today though because she is going to see Roadtrip. ..

Christmas17 Sun 08-Oct-17 08:11:58

At the age of 10/11, she was a victim to grooming on-line ( yes, all the parental controls were in place) . This made her sexualised, and now, she craves/has obsessional relationships with boys, which are not healthy. She uses her friends to manipulate situations to be with boys.Consequently she loses friends because they probably feel used, and are sick of the drama. I struggle to see where the line is between blaming the grooming, or just being a typical teenager. I certainly was no saint!

Christmas17 Sun 08-Oct-17 08:16:18

Thankyou, I'll definately take a look.

DancesWithOtters Sun 08-Oct-17 11:10:59

Has she had therapy?

It sounds like it might be a good idea to have some long term therapy to talk it all through.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Sun 08-Oct-17 11:14:51

Has she had counselling?

BigGreenOlives Sun 08-Oct-17 11:17:07

The trouble with stroppy teens is that they have to be willing to engage with therapy. Does she want to try and work out her motivation?

Christmas17 Sun 08-Oct-17 12:06:22

She's had countless therapy, and has a youth support worker!

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