So, went to pick ds and dd1 up from station. dd2 is in car as we have come from shopping. Dd2 is in front seat.
Battles over who sits in the front are epic and ongoing and drive me mad. I refuse to engage.
ds is 14 and 6 foot tall.
ds won't get in the car- 'it is my turn to sit in front.'
me- get in the back or I will drive off and you can walk
ds refuses to move
me- start engine and drive off. Ds runs alongside car (big empty car park.) Then gives up and screams BITCH as he stomps away.
I drive a circuit round the car park, and then stop by him and he jumps in the back
DON'T EVER DO THAT TO ME AGAIN YOU STUPID WOMAN
me- you have just lost your phone for the weekend, there is no way you are speaking to me like that, totally innappropriate.
On the way home, constant stream of comment on my driving, on the route home (roadworks are causing lots of traffic jams at the moment, so we keep trying alternatives)
4 times more he called me stupid, one of which was stupid bugger, also called me silly, dangerous driver (because I drove off without him and with him running by car) Harangued me for several minutes over how I had 'put the girls in danger' (I hadn't)
Repeats AGAIN twenty times about what a ridiculous route home I have chosen.
Get home, will not hand phone over. Dh is home, I call him down, ds is cornered in hall, and we get phone off him. In the process he shouts more rudeness, and accuses me of lying and tells me I never told him why his phone was going and on and on and on.
I'm afraid at this point I shout back and tell him that we don't want him downstairs when he is so foul mouthed and antisocial, so he can go to his room (x box is downstairs)
I know he was tired and irritable (always after school) and I know he was upset over the car etc. And I know he will calm down and apologise, but I am really sick to the stomach that he can say this stuff and throw it at me when he is cross.
He has never heard any adult speak that way, we don't even swear!
He doesn't even get it that calling me 'woman' like that is unbelievably rude.
I don't know where it comes from, and I am so tired of having 'defend' myself against a child.
Then tomorrow he will probably be lovely and funny and kind and I will wonder why I get stressed.
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steppemum · 29/09/2017 17:22
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