Why are teenagers so rude?!?!?!?

(32 Posts)
MummaDeeDee Thu 28-Sep-17 20:26:25

Just that really. I got told to "listen up" and to "I'll expect you to do as I've asked, thanks" by a 15 year old today. What the actual fuck?!?! Why are they so rude? My teen might be rude to another child but would never dream of speaking to adults so rudely. Where are children getting this cheek from?!

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MummaDeeDee Sat 07-Oct-17 05:09:09

So??? I posted for advice because I was upset and frustrated, if you can't say anything constructive I don't get the point of your post.

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Fluffysparks Fri 06-Oct-17 21:18:45

That's not the title of your thread...

MummaDeeDee Sat 30-Sep-17 12:50:22

@Fluffysparks what exactly was rude or unpleasant about what I've said? I've made it very clear that I am not branding ALL teenagers but was referring to the specific situation which happened.

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quaqua Sat 30-Sep-17 12:08:41

I also work with teens and the majority are lovely.

Fluffysparks Sat 30-Sep-17 11:07:24

I think it's wholly rude and unpleasant if you to brand general teenagers with this. Perhaps it is the workings of hormones that makes already rude teenagers worse, but honestly I feel you are much ruder, I know so many kind and caring teenagers and a lot of nasty adults.

MummaDeeDee Fri 29-Sep-17 20:20:28

I rate anyone that works with teenagers, you are a brave bunch! But in all seriousness, I've been lucky enough to have contact with some amazingly supportive staff members at DDs school. They are the reassurance that my child will survive another day.

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TheSecondOfHerName Fri 29-Sep-17 19:36:49

Either that, or they're all terrified of me. grin

TheSecondOfHerName Fri 29-Sep-17 19:34:32

Many of the students come from cultural backgrounds where a lot of respect is shown to teachers, so I get some respect by osmosis. Have only been doing this role for a year, so maybe the rudeness is yet to come.

Eolian Fri 29-Sep-17 19:24:39

Wow, TheSecondIfHerName - I have worked with many many support staff and I'm pretty sure none of them would be able to say that. You either work in an unusual school or you have super powers.

TheSecondOfHerName Fri 29-Sep-17 18:37:45

I work with teenagers (support staff in a secondary school). See about 20 each day (different ones each time). Haven't yet had one be rude to me.

MummaDeeDee Fri 29-Sep-17 18:37:23

I'm not about to argue with a 15 year old but I'm not going to take rudeness from one either. It just drives me nuts that people/teens can be so rude!!! It's horrible.

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MummaDeeDee Fri 29-Sep-17 18:34:32

@MissHelena she directed it at me because she told me to "sort my daughter out" and I responded with "I think you can sort this out between yourselves".
@Eolian sadly I'd have to agree.

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Eolian Fri 29-Sep-17 15:05:02

Almost all of the rude people I've ever met in my life have been teenagers, but then I'm a secondary teacher. I am polite to them, but this is often not reciprocated. Obviously there are lots of nice teenagers too, but a depressingly large number of very rude ones.

corythatwas Fri 29-Sep-17 14:53:47

Some PEOPLE are rude and some of them happen to be teenagers....


Worst horror stories from my dd (working in catering) involves either young children addressing the au pair in front of their mother, middle-aged male academics, and teachers from local secondary school who seem to think their position in the workplace corresponds to some similar position in the outside world. In other words, people of all ages who for one reason or other have internalised the message that they are more important than anybody else around.

misshelena Fri 29-Sep-17 13:26:48

I got told to "listen up" and to "I'll expect you to do as I've asked, thanks" by a 15 year old today.

But why would she direct those words at you? If she was fighting with your dd, why would she say those words to you? Did you join the fight to defend your dd?

MummaDeeDee Thu 28-Sep-17 20:43:58

I hope so Dawnedlightly

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Dawnedlightly Thu 28-Sep-17 20:39:37

Ach sorry, you'd updated before I'd posted.
I think it's vv unusual.

MummaDeeDee Thu 28-Sep-17 20:38:22

@pinkbraces I'm talking solely about the ones I've encountered, not the entire teen population.

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Dawnedlightly Thu 28-Sep-17 20:37:42

Who said that? shock

MummaDeeDee Thu 28-Sep-17 20:36:17

Definitely has no boundaries and yes she probably will be a rude teen.

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pinkbraces Thu 28-Sep-17 20:35:36

Is that teens as a group or just the one you encountered? In my experience most teens are lovely, just like most people are lovely.

MummaDeeDee Thu 28-Sep-17 20:33:56

@DuckoffautocorrectYouShiv I know what you mean. My DD forgets herself sometimes too and of course I accept that. But telling a 40 yr old woman to "listen up" is not on.

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ProperLavs Thu 28-Sep-17 20:33:34

She's a teen and she happens to be rude. I bet she will be a rude adult too.

quaqua Thu 28-Sep-17 20:32:53

If she thinks it's appropriate to start on your dd in front of you, she clearly has no boundaries. Not representative of teenagers in general though IMO.

MummaDeeDee Thu 28-Sep-17 20:30:57

Yes I agree actually about it being PEOPLE in general. It was a girl my DD has fallen out with who thought it appropriate to start on her in front of me.

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