We've been struggling with our daughter for a little while but things have deteriorated this year in particular. She is 16 and has just started college. What do you expect similar aged teens to do around the house? What curfews do you have in place for weekdays and weekends? Do you expect to know who they're out with? She thinks we are unreasonably strict and I would like to check what other's do as we think she is the unreasonable one!
All I ask her to do is make her bed, change her bed linen (which she usually needs help with), keep her room tidy, put dirty washing in the laundry bin, put clean washing away, clear crockery out of her room, set and clear the dining table. Most of this doesn't happen without a lot of fuss.
Weekdays we ask her to be home 9 - 9:30.
Weekends she has been coming home 10:30.
But, she is always late by 1/2 - 1 hour, week days and weekends. She won't pick up the phone if we ring her in front of her friends. We have 'find my iPhone' and can see she is not where she says she will be and she appears to be miles away and travelling in a car. We have no idea who she knows with a car.
She holds us to ransom with her behaviour. We've allowed exceptions like staying out all night after prom and in the summer she stayed out all night for a birthday party. We went on an exotic, once in a lifetime, summer holiday and she was miserable throughout because the wifi was poor in public areas so she stayed in the villa on Snapchat as my husband decided to pay for a wifi package as he couldn't stand the moaning anymore.
Your experiences would be helpful to know!
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MaryPoppins999 · 17/09/2017 10:07
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