So this has been going on for a while, over the summer really. I suspected my 13 year old son of using cannabis a couple of times but he managed to fob me off and I stupidly believed him. A couple of weeks ago I came home to find him and his friends had been in my house and there were traces of tobacco, tin foil and skunk on the table as well damage to the table, also evidence in the garden. My son said that there were people in but no drugs. He was simply lighting matches by the bins in garden but had no idea about drugs - no one had them??? - I questioned why, then was there the end of a joint in the matchbox - again - no idea? He was grounded then on return to school he refused to go to school for 2 days. I called school and they came to house and I told them everything. That same night he refused to answer my calls and texts for hours (he left house even tho he was grounded). So I called the Police and reported him missing. The police were great and when he strolled back in later that night they even came back to give him a talk. He has also had talks with school and Barnados (a follow up as he was reported missing). While grounded he was lovely and he agreed he had to build up trust again, so this week I let him go out for a couple of hours 2 nights in a row, with condition of being home early. I got home after work yesterday and there was a faint smell of cannabis in the house. Also a tiny amount of tobacco and cannabis on the floor. I then found cigarette ends on his bedroom floor under the window (I guess he has been smoking out of his window - not cannabis though). When confronted last night he denied everything - doesn't know how any of it got there - can't explain it. I am at a complete loss as to what to do now. I said he was grounded again and I have stopped his money. He simply refuses to acknowledge any drugs, but I know he's lying. I just get accused of 'never believing him'. He has been caught out a few times and lied to me. Drugs advice and anger management have both been offered to him. He is considering anger management, but simply refuses to acknowledge any drug use. I just don't know what to now?
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