A bit of back ground first.
We used to live on quite a rough council estate but got an exchange to a nicer area 3 years ago.
Before we moved my eldest was at the local upper school and had just finished year 8. He was doing well in school and had a good group of friends so I allowed him to stay at the school as it was unlikely he would get a space at the new local (most over-subscribed school in the city)
All well until year 11. He started going downhill at school, in with the wrong crowd now, he started coming in late or not at all. Endless list of, I guess, usual teen behaviour but not great, still.
So he has know for a while I want him to move schools for 6th form to our local school as they have to take a minimum of 50 new students so the opportunity is there. My dd goes there now. It's in walking distance, better school and I'm not gonna lie I want him away from the estate. I'm kicking myself for not moving him earlier but he was doing so well!
We discussed it again today and he basically refused to go. He is 16 so I get he needs to have an input but also I just know staying at the school he's at now is not the right thing for him to do.
EVERYONE is telling me to move him, get him out of there. I feel it too.
One of the lads from his school/the area has just been charged with murder, same age as ds. He was a friend of ds. I have to get him out of there right?
He tells me it's not my decision. But I will make him if I have to. I'm so torn! I want the best for him but want him to be happy too :(
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ksherr2012 · 18/08/2017 19:28
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