Okay a bit of background. My daughter is waiting for an assessment for possible ADHD or high functioning Autism. Here we have a 3 school system first school 4-9, middle school 9-13 high school 13-16 & sixth form. She was fine in first school. Lots of friends really popular. Middle school was a nightmare she was bullied horrendously from the start in and out of school. I was in the school at least twice a week. It spread to outside school. I moved her to another school, she was a target again, hit, called horrendous name really bad she was off sick with stress, She cried in my arms and said she was a freak. She told her friends to ignore so they wouldn't be targeted by association. Her class teacher called the whole class in to tear them a new one for how badly they were treating her.That worked for about a week. Then a boy told her on the bus on the way home he was going to kill her when she went back to school. This kid had a reputation and he had already hit her several times. She said if she was sent back she would run away or kill herself. She was 12 when she said that. So middle school number three and a third house move later and more bullying. A girl pushed her down the stairs and kept saying one week she was her friend and the next treating her like dirt and then repeating. All this time I said I thought she was 'different.' She was showing signs of really high intelligence and really bad social and organisational skills. She could concentrate and take in huge amounts of details for things that interested her but couldn't take in a single sentence of things which didn't. I begged every school to listen to me but I was dismissed. They just said she needed to make more of an effort to fit in. Then high school. We are now in a different town and it's happening again!!! In and out of school. She has had boys following her around asking her if she is on her period and pinching her bottom and saying she has a dead pigeon in her locker. She went to school reception and asked to speak to the deputy head. She told them she had been sexually assaulted by a boy. They told her the deputy wasn't there and to go back to her lesson. I am b**dy furious. I have already been to the community support, these boys have been knocking my door and approaching her in the street. The school told me "we have told them if they do it again we will call their parents."
And now the sexual harassment. The receptionist didn't pass it on. I sent a letter to the school making a complaint about the receptionist. I also said if they thought I was going to let it go because it was the end of the school year they were wrong because there is no way the bullies were going to stop without serious intervention.
The police dropped it without asking me because the school told them they would sort it. But some of this is happening at weekends and in school holidays.
I am sorry for the long post, but I am so worn out from years of chasing schools to support my daughter who is clearly vulnerable and has a big target on her back because she is socially awkward. The only place she "fits" is the groups she attend for teens with autism and Asperger's. She hasn't received an assessment but she is just like them. All the traits are the same. They speak like adults, they don't get the teenage stuff. They can't relate to them.
I have had years of schools telling me she needs to try and fit in and years of me telling them that is victim blaming and she clearly can't fit in because she obviously has special needs which are being ignored by everyone but me. She shouldn't have to put up with this. As an adult woman if a male colleague touched my bottom and asked me about my period he probably wouldn't remain in his job. My daughter should get the same protection in her workplace.
And the holidays are no respite. I have boys making comments when they see me that I'm L*'s mum. And someone tried to take a photo of her when were in town. I feel like we could move to Mars and she would still get bullied. And then she takes it out on me. I have huge big screaming fits because she hates her life. And who can blame her!
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pinkksugarmouse · 29/07/2017 00:23
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