Our 18 yr old son, who has some social anxiety issues, last night finally admitted to us he saw no point in trying to find full time work when he could stay at home for £20/week (he gets £57/week job seekers allowance and we ask for £20/week).
He was asked to leave F/T college last October for non-attendance and has just taken (3rd time) his English GCSE (he has 3 GCSE', Maths and 2 sciences GCSE's). We have arranged support and counselling for his mental health issues (via GP, college, local Family Youth Support, YoungMinds etc) - he arranges an initial meeting but refuses to attend, telling us lies. He is not happy but is not helping himself. He has three friends, the main one he sees comes from a troubles home who uses weed - we do not allow this young man in our house.
Our son just does not see the point of getting up nor looking for work. My partner and I have always worked and tried to encourage a healthy approach to independent living. He is not happy.
We have changed the WiFI password so he now has no internet. We do not pay for his mobile phone. We do not cook for him and we no-longer do any of his laundry - he does have a TV and landline phone in his room which we are thinking of removing.
We have a written signed 'House Rules' contract which he usually ignores when it pleases him. We have on occasion asked him to leave the house for a couple of days at a time. We have considered asking him to leave on a more permanent basis (we want him to be independent and happy) but we know he will stay with his drug taking friend and feel his is too vulnerable for this - we are pulling our hair out.
Any help??
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18 yr old son - at a complete loss what more to do
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user1499162872 · 04/07/2017 11:37
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