Eldest DS is 13 and normally polite and well behaved bar the normal, occasional hormonal mood swing now and then but we can usually talk through feelings together to understand what's going on with him.
Last night he got annoyed with his younger brother who has a habit of leaving toys on his bed DS2 is 10, they share space in DS1's room as it's bigger and contains DS2s wardrobe (they previously had bunk beds in this room together until about two years ago) they'd arranged this between themselves and had been getting along fine until now.
During the argument last night DS2 began mocking DS1 and generally being stupid and annoying resulting in DS1 shoving DS2, the rule in this house is everyone keeps their hands to themselves and comes to get either myself or or their dad (DS1 step dad) to sort it out if things are escalating.
I came upstairs and spoke to them both about their behaviour towards each other and reminded DS2 to tidy up after himself and DS to keep hands to himself.
They both went to bed, I then received a massive tirade of complaining text messages from DS1 who had clearly kept his phone upstairs against house rules.
I went up and told him to stop, removed phone and made it clear the discussion was over, he then came downstairs to carry on telling me how unfair I am for not being harder on DS2 and generally being rude and disrespectful to me in his manner and tone, I told him to stop and go to bed or he'd lose console privledges after school today, he said 'so what I'll just watch DVDs in my room" so I told him he's now lost those too for his cheek and rudeness, next it was "so I'll just read then, I don't care." So now his books are out of his room too.
I'm not used to this sort of defiance, rudeness, cheekiness and disrespectful behaviour from him!
Honestly I don't know what the fuck I'm doing?!! How do I handle these new teen tantrums effectively, I'm following through with the consequences today (he's to stay in his room with nothing to do this evening) but I'm not sure how to handle these out bursts, he was like a dog with a bone last night and wouldn't hear that there's no excuse for hitting/shoving or getting physical and thinks he should be allowed to show his younger brother who's boss.
He's now clearly been telling tales about me today as his IPad is pinging with the texts his been sending/recieving from his phone at school to his Dad who is replying (backing me up thankfully) which has annoyed me even more now!
Advice and help please he's only been a teen for 3 weeks and I feel like I'm fucking it up already. 😩
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Madbum · 28/06/2017 13:16
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