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Aaagh ungrateful teens!!

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Mrscaindingle · 27/06/2017 16:56

Am sitting in Leicester Square nursing a glass of wine having had an argument with DS 16. Him having flounced off in Camden market as I had the audacity to bring him to London for his 16th birthday to see Adele. He has scorned every suggestion I have made for things to but come up with no suggestions whatsoever. I bit my tongue for so long but when he said Camden market was crap and there was nothing to buy I could no longer pretend we were having a good time.
Sigh! I think me and him are done with holidays til he can stop behaving like a brat

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 27/06/2017 17:40

You took him for a day out and a gig? You cruel, heartless mother, you.

Enjoy your wine, and hopefully he will get over his strop and realise he is being ungrateful.

WineCake

Butterymuffin · 27/06/2017 17:43

That is ungrateful of him. Is the gig tonight?

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 27/06/2017 17:45

Does he actually like Adele?

My teen gets bolshy if he feels a bit overwhelmed,any chance that's the case?

Enjoy your wine Wine

TrollMummy · 27/06/2017 18:49

There is no pleasing teens sometimes and the ungratefulness is a pill that I find hard to swallow. I hope you enjoy the show and maybe by then your DS will have mellowed a bit.

Mrscaindingle · 27/06/2017 22:28

The gig is tomorrow night we are down for 3 nights to see the sights etc except we've done very little except go to Camden market (nothing to buy) Marble Arch/ Hyde park last night for dinner and a mooch (boring) every single thing I've suggested is met with scorn.

I'm really fed up with him and would just go home but the train tickets are booked for going home on Thursday. He was really keen to get Adele tickets last year but we couldn't get them for love nor money now that I have managed to he seems 'not bovvered'
I managed to bite my tongue all yesterday but today told him he couldn't just keep turning down my ideas and not coming up with anything possibly in a sharp tone of voice and apparently it's me who's over reacted. Angry

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 27/06/2017 22:52

Why don't you ask him to plan what to do?

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 27/06/2017 22:53

Oh sorry,I see you already have.

thegoodnameshadgone · 27/06/2017 22:54

Trocedero?

Wolfiefan · 27/06/2017 22:54

Dress like a teen.
Act like a teen.
Shame him into being the grown up! Grin

Mylittlesunshines · 27/06/2017 22:55

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HesMyLobster · 27/06/2017 22:59

Wolfe Grin
I am totally using that next time my 2 are doing their stroppy teen thing tomorrow!

booellesmum · 27/06/2017 23:00

Yup. Enjoy the wine. Bloody hard work aren't they?
Would he like Ripleys museum?

Wolfiefan · 27/06/2017 23:05

Plan for teenage daughter.
Remove all doors from hinges to prevent slamming.
Dress like I'm 15.
Tattoo
Hair dye.
Go out and behave VERY badly until stupid o'clock. Preferably being escorted home by police.
Daughter will rebel and be angelic! Grin

Mrscaindingle · 28/06/2017 06:20

I have asked him several times what he wants to do and get "I dunno" or in a slightly more stroppy tone " I've never been to London before so how would I know." conveniently forgetting that we have indeed been before and that obviously you can research everything on line now.

It's that teenager thing whereby stuff that I suggest must be uncool because it's me that's suggested it which I get but he's not usually so reticent to come up with something he wants to to do.

I am a single parent and financially things are tight which makes this all the harder when I could have done something useful with this money that's gone down the drain. I think I am done going away with him until he can grow up a bit and appreciate the money and effort things like this take.

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sandgrown · 28/06/2017 06:31

Could you do the on/off bus tour so he can just listen to the commentary and you can get off if he fancies a look at something. Natural History museum, the Tower or Wembley stadium?. My son can be the same and I think he found the crowds in London a bit overwhelming. When we got back He told people what a good time he had!

somewhereovertherain · 28/06/2017 06:35

Me I'd flog the Adele tickets and use the money to take the little shit home. Not helpful I know and I would do it.

Out2pasture · 28/06/2017 06:37

have you thought of go ape at battersea park?

abbsisspartacus · 28/06/2017 06:48

Facebook the tickets ask at the train station if you can change the return day

OhTheRoses · 28/06/2017 06:49

What are his usual interests op and how much do you have to spend. This is pretty normal behaviour at 16 and they change hugely between 15/16.

bigchris · 28/06/2017 06:53

Oh this is sad, he's probably wanting to be with his mates at that age

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youarenotkiddingme · 28/06/2017 07:00

I LOVE the dressing and acting like a teen plan Grin

I'd have just said amuse yourself then. I'm doing x y and z and leaving on train from X station at y time on Thursday. I'll have your ticket there if you want to travel home with me.

My ds is a few years younger but I've often found that me announcing I'm doing potentially fun stuff without him is the quickest way to get him to suddenly want to do it!

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user1492287253 · 28/06/2017 07:04

get up early and spend a couple of hours doing what you want to do. go out for a nice walk and breakfast. tell him youll be back at 11.30.

user1492287253 · 28/06/2017 07:06

and my teen at the height of her unreasonbleness accused me of taking her to Disney in Florida " so i would make myself look good" Grin

Therealslimshady1 · 28/06/2017 07:12

Ah, how disappointing to get this thrown in your face. Sorry OP.

At 16 I was pretty graceless about outings with my parents, I always wish I could have been doing the activity with a boyfriend instead and be independent (I did not even have a boyfriendGrin) and I soon stopped doing things with my mum as I was desperate for the next stage and be grown up and independent.

So instead of going on holiday with my parents, I went on crap camping holiday with friends...and refused to.come with them to Paris....

I have a good relationship with my mum, but at 16-18 I rather forcefully cut the remaining bits of umbilical cord.

This, I think, is normal.

Still shit to get caught up in it as the parent though!

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