First post, although I've felt like posting in the past I've always stopped myself.
I've had an argument with my 15 year old daughter today as I had a hunch she wasn't where she said she was last night. I asked her where she was when she came home this afternoon (was staying at a friend's). She lied and then admitted (in stages) that she'd gone to a party without telling me. I wouldn't have had a problem with her going to the party, I do have a problem with her hiding it from me.
History: we are generally stricter than her friends parents. She is first born, many of her friends have children much older so are more liberal with the younger Ines. I have told my daughter that I am willing to be more open and have later curfews etc if she earns them by being trustworthy, texting when she's got to places and always let us know where she is. She's been very slack with this so we haven't really budged and expect her to be home by 8/9ish if she's walking home alone (in the summer) but more lenient if she's staying at Friends or we're meeting her.
She wouldn't listen to me tonight. She just shouted over mebeing massively defensive again and again.
I'm suffering from depression which I am just about to embark on a talking therapy for, and I became angry and said some really fucking horrible things which I can't take back. I've gone for a walk. I don't know where to go from here. I've tried phoning her but understandably she won't talk to me. She's saying she's refusing to go to school tomorrow.
I feel like I've lost control. I don't know what to do. Please be gentle - I'm feeling terrible and know I've handled this very very badly.
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