dd13- school refusal

[TimrousBeastie]

sorry if this comes across as rambled but i just dont know what to do and hoping someone can offer advice
dd is just finishing of her second year at high school (in scotland) and this is her 5th week of not going in. her attendance hasnt been great since she started high school but this is the worst its been. it started of as stomach pains, feeling sick and dizzy and headaches either last thing at night or in the morning and symptoms disappearing about 11am. i took her to three doctors and they all said that there was nothing physically wrong with her and her symptoms could be the result of stress/anxiety. she has also been referred for testing for possible dyspraxia.
I was dealing with the schools pastoral care teacher but a couple of weeks ago i emailed the head teacher and deputy for her year. the deputy wants to come up with a plan to help her but as a short time solution is gathering up work for her to do at home to catch up.
th pastoral care teacher has spoken to the head of her dept and hes said that i should make her come into school- i have tried everything i can think of and nothing is working.
now she isnt even mentioning the pains, she just sobs and says she just cant go in and doesnt know why. I went to the dr this morning and shes going to get in touch with cahms and chase up the referal to the kids clinic.
ive tried being patient, shouting at her gets us nowhere taking away electrical stuff makes no difference
any advice will be greatly appreciated

[TimrousBeastie]

should also say that she had bloods taken last week and they showed an increase in white blood cells so shes to go back next week for more to be taken to see if results change

[coffeecoffeecoffeee]

That definitely sounds like some sort of anxiety to me. I have a lot of experience with this as both me and my older sister had it (me when I was 9 and my sister when she was about 14). Be patient with her. Anxiety is very draining - good for you for going to the doctor and getting her help for it!