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Urgent call for help finding SW London CBT for 15 yr old teenage son!

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vicsvics · 18/05/2017 09:13

I need advice on finding some CBT for my eldest son who has gone from a relatively high academic achiever at 13/14 to a well below average performer at 15/16. He is at boarding school (he has boarded since year 6) and the downward trend has only happened at senior school. He is not happy in his boarding House, but generally likes the school. He is a strong athlete playing for all the A teams in a competitive environment but does not give any more than his natural talent on the pitch. He has a low level of confidence and low self esteem. he does have an innate glass half empty mindset but in the past could rally himself to do a good job on stuff. He definitely thinks that he cannot achieve any better grades and that he is not worth the effort that we or his teachers are willing to make. As a consequence it appears his default position is to make little effort himself. He has been subjected to fairly sustained manipulation in his boarding house for the last two years, although this is only really coming to the fore now. I am keen to get him some CBT to help address the issues. His school are trying to help with practical support on the arrangements in house, but I fear if we do not help him get his head around what he needs to do to gain a more "I am in control of my own destiny" attitude then he will fail his GCSEs. We are not looking for excellent grades, just ones good enough to get him on to the next stage of his life. Can anyone recommend a good practitioner in the SW London area? All advice gratefully received.
TIA x

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chocolateworshipper · 18/05/2017 22:09

You could use BACP's website to find a therapist - you can select on area and select CBT as "type of approach"

www.itsgoodtotalk.org.uk/therapists/

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LadyOrangutan · 19/05/2017 14:18

Hi.
I'd recommend The Priory in Roehampton. Excellent highly qualified therapists and they specialise in young people too.

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YouOKHun · 10/06/2017 22:50

Late to this thread but adding this in case it's useful. For CBT the go-to website is the BABCP's, as that is the professional body for accredited CBT therapists. You could look at a cognitive therapy called Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy, accredited REBT therapists are also listed on the BABCP website. I mention REBT because it takes a more philosophical approach than CBT and is useful for problems with perfectionism, fear of failure, lack of self acceptance etc.

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wizzywig · 10/06/2017 22:53

I think there are also workbooks that he can work on from amazon

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