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iwantapuppyplease Fri 21-Apr-17 21:34:11

I am at a bit of a loss what to do.

My dd (nearly 13) is overweight. She is about 5'4" and weighs 10st 1lb, she is in an adult size 12 just.

A few months ago I took her to get checked at the docs as she was always tired and gaining weight (was thinking thyroid), and everything came back normal so they put it down to her age. Since then she has gained more weight and I don't know what to do.

She eats healthy at home as I don't buy junk (as hubby and me are eating healthy too) -
cereal, or toast and peanut butter for breakfast
Healthy homemade meals at night (stir fry / salmon fillet, new potato and veg / spag bol etc)
Snacks are fruit, oatcakes and Philly light, popcorn, berries and yogurt etc.

I even stopped giving her money for lunch each day (as she was buying sweets or junk) so she takes a packed lunch - ham salad wrap or a tuna salad or similar, and gets lunch money on a Friday. I can't even put money on her lunch card as they sell things like cupcakes, tray bakes etc and she buys that. Saturdays are treat days, so she gets chocolate then and a meal of her choice.. usually pizza (not a whole one!)

We have a treadmill and I am trying to get her to do couch to 5k with me. I try to get her to exercise at home with me, which she doesn't like.
She used to do lots of sporty activities and dropped them when she went to high school. She goes to school clubs but nothing 'active'. Nothing I suggest interests her sport-wise. She will come out a long walk at a weekend and enjoys that but it's not enough.

For a healthy BMI she should be about 18lbs less 😞 The last thing I want is it to be an issue but it's turned into one and she becoming unhappy.
She is starting to feel like I am nagging her about it and making her feel bad about herself.
Clearly whatever I am doing is just upsetting her and I definitely don't want that.

So what do I do - leave it alone and she may gain more weight? Try something else? I went to the docs for advise and that was useless, tried to help myself - that was useless. Any ideas?

Thanks (sorry that turned out long)

TrollMummy Sat 22-Apr-17 13:02:44

I think it's good that you are aware of it OP but as you said the key thing is not to make it an issue. It's a fine line to walk at such a tricky age when they are full of hormones and hypersensitive to any criticism about how they look.

It sounds like you are doing all the right things diet wise but the issue is probably the lack of activity. Maybe shift the focus from weight and focus instead on nutrition and being healthy and active. Rather than talking about weight, I tell my DD about how eating well and avoiding junk will make her skin better and her hair shiny as she's totally obsessed with this. I would also keep up the quest to find an activity that she can do regularly not just for weight loss but also because it will make her feel better and happier about herself.

Mumofjustthe1 Sat 22-Apr-17 14:26:48

Hi there, teenagers don't pay at slimmers world and it is not a diet. It is about teaching to make healthy food choices. I am in my healthy BMI and have been for the last 3 years. I was 3 stone over weight for 10 years. Obviously I understand you want to tread carefully, but I would recommend having a look at their web site at the food options

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