Right, long and short of it.... dd 14 has been difficult recently. Smoking, being difficult at school, lost her virginity recently (with a lad I'm trying desperately to like) and I'm trying so hard to be understanding (she is very much like me at that age). Tonight she comes home announcing "I met "richard"(friend of bf) today, he's lovely, 14, coming to my school in Sept.....
.and on bail for the last month for rape".
I was stranger raped 10 years ago, it affected me hugely, kept it very much away from dd, she was 4 and even with ss involvement was unaware until recently, but I felt the need to tell her last year as she was being reckless.
How do I deal with this?
My automatic response was to say stay away, don't see him/be around him. My closest friends, believe it or not say "its probably just a slaggy girl trying her luck" but having experienced that attitude I'm struggling to decide what is the right path to follow.
I know it's innocent until proven otherwise but I know only too well that the right outcome is not guaranteed so......do I stop her seeing him (she'll prob lie anyway) or act normal so at least I know whats going on?
It's so difficult to be unbiased!
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Friend of teen on bail for rape, how to react as a survivor.
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EyesOfYuna · 07/04/2017 23:34
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