Dd struggling to insert tampons.

[snozzlemaid]

Can't believe I've just handed my tube of ky jelly to help her insert a tampon!
She's 15 and has never been able to get one in but really wants to start using them. We've had a chat about it and I've tried to get her to relax but she always gets in such a state about these things. She's probably too tense so I thought some lube might help.
This is one of those things you don't think having to deal with when you decide to have a baby!

[MrsPacMan]

Posting on MN is unlikely to help her 😁

[NecklessMumster]

Is it an applicator one? I couldn't use the non app ones at that age

[Confusicous]

I've always found them impossible - softcups however work amazingly for me

Also she might not realise that you don't push it "up" might be worth mentioning it goes "back" somewhat

[MapMyMum]

Let her use pads??? I always hated tampons, tried all sorts of varieties but never got on with them

[snozzlemaid]

Thanks MrsPacMan. Very helpful. What topics are ok to discuss on mumsnet? Didn't know there were rules.
Yes, she's trying with applicator ones. Using plastic ones at the moment as they're more slippery. Had the discussion about which way the vagina goes, so she knows not to push straight up.
She's had a bit of success but not got it all the way in.
She wanted to go swimmimg with a friend tomorrow so she really wants to do it. I'm not pressuring her into it. It's her choice.

[MrsPacMan]

Sorry, didn't realise you were asking for advice, so it seemed like a strange post to make. If you do a little search you'll get lots of older threads about this kind of thing 👍

[highinthesky]

I don't think DD has any great awareness of anything other than the entrance of her vagina. In your position I would have skipped the KY and inserted the first one for her. Then she'll be off and away.

[lljkk]

That's vile.

[Enelya]

I used to need to put one foot up on the bath side and bend the standing leg when I was learning. It helped get it further in.

[PermanentlyDumbfounded]

Silly question, but she's got the tiny ones for teenagers, yes?

I remember propping my leg up on the sink/ loo helped. And taking some deep breaths.

[MrsPacMan]

Are you literally high highinthesky

[justdontevenfuckingstart]

DD2 never could manage either. Has the 3 year implant now, no spotting or mood swings and contraception sorted. She was very sporty so this was a good result for her. (not your question I know)

[Purpleprickles]

Snozzle would she try non applicator ones? I could never and have never got on with applicator ones so once I wanted to use them went straight to Lilets. This would have been around your dd's age.

[LimitedSedition]

I'm pretty alternative and out there as a parent high but even I'd draw the line there.

[ImLadybird]

Isn't MN supposed to be a place we can come to for advice and support that we can't find elsewhere?

Maybe try with just a finger to start off with. She should get a feel for what's what and try the tampon after.

[ImLadybird]

Her finger though - not yours ;)

[welshweasel]

Agree try tampax Pearl and the non applicator ones. Get her to insert her finger first so she has an idea of where she's going. Foot up on loo good position to try.

[justdontevenfuckingstart]

I think, there was possibly a troll a while back that was posting about helping with a tampon if my memory serves correct which may be what high was referencing.

[BertieBotts]

Has she tried putting her own finger inside so she knows where to aim for? I found that helpful. And also to know that it wouldn't break or hurt if I did manage it.

[PaperdollCartoon]

Definitely keep trying with the plastic applicators, they're the easiest to use. Getting one leg up on the side of the bath or something can help too, rather than just trying sitting on the loo. And relax! She'll get there in time.

[Reow]

Could you have her try the smaller sized moon cup? I've always found tampons uncomfortable and drying. Tried a moon cup in my 30s and never looked back, and they can be left in 12 hours, and you can get a good measure on heaviness. And far far less risk of tss.

There are also online tutorials etc.

[Hulder]

FInger, mirror, lube, non-applicator.

The anatomy was not remotely as I had pictured it.

[IHeartDodo]

I think the first time I tried to put one in I only got it 2/3 of the way in... Just don't panic, if it's not working leave it and try again a bit later. Forcing it if it's not working will hurt and be off putting!
PS. I'm assuming you have the smallest size - the ones about the size of your little finger?

[sonlypuppyfat]

I'm 50 and I've got 3 kids , I can't get them in, horrible things

[lifeisazebracrossing]

I couldn't use them until I'd become sexually active. Some of us are narrower down there. But they didn't have the plastic applicators when I was young. How does anyone use non applicator ones???