I have DD 12 & DS 13. Having a hard time with them which has got worse of late.
Please be gentle I was ill for awhile so a lot has been left to DH who has more laid back approach to parenting than I have and he also works long days and hours. I feel largely ok now and want to get our lives on track again.
I feel weary with the DC's and day to day life at the moment. I only work pt. I feel I am carrying D.C.'s on my back and life should be getting easier but it isn't. The house is such a tip and it takes ages to tidy as so much mess laying around and so much thoughtlessness.
Just in time for Easter Hols it seems to be really hard work again. DD is having lots of hassle at school with ex friends (so she doesn't have any friends especially outside of school). But still does 2 or 3 after school activities. I am trying to cut her some slack at home and to be fair DS's behavior is much worse. I am taking her to school every day and collecting her 3 days a week which is hard work (they are both at different schools). Every weekend I have to nag them about homework and rooms. I have explained they do nothing around home, tried confiscating iPads phones until homework is done which ends in a battle every week. Also both play in sports teams so very little time to be wasted arguing about homework when we could be out doing something nice enjoying life either as a family or they could go out with friends.
DS seems fairly popular at school and seems to be doing ok.
They are both so lazy all they do when at home which is most of the time is mainly lounge around on iPads or phones the rest of the time they argue, tell tales on each other, wind each other up fight with each other etc. The last 2 nights they have had a argument when they have gone to bed which has resulted in DS kicking hell out of DD's door. Last night DH rushed up and smacked them both (which I am not in favor of) he is fed up as neither will listen both blame each other, tell lies and both shout and argue a lot.
If they make a drink they often spill it on work surface or floor won't dream of wiping it up unless I see them do it and nag them into it. If they help themselves to a snack they sometimes make a mess with that and will put any packaging anywhere in the house rather than the bin. Both lie about doing it etc. Their bedrooms are a mess dirty clothes not in clothes baskets etc etc etc.
I am fed up. Any advice other than taking all gadgets off them permanently, sending them to bed at 7pm every night or my running away? I try and give them both individual time to talk and listen about day to day life at school with friends. I think DS maybe jealous that recently I am concentrating more on his sister due to worry over hassle she's been having inside and out of school from her ex friends escalating but their is no excuse for this rubbish. Last night I asked DS to make drinks to go with our tea (while I was cooking). He came through on about the 6th time iPad in hand. Had to be asked to put it down and concentrate. He did reluctantly and grumpily then ended up spilling it all over work surface (which he made a very half baked attempt to clean up after being reminded). But had spilled some on the floor as well which he denied but it must have been him and I ended up having to clean it. DD had reluctantly fed the dog and laid the table earlier but had also to be asked to do it several times. Advice on where to start with these two please be gentle with me. I feel like we are back to toddlerhood but with none of the nice bits and unless we can sort things out now life will get worse as they get older. Also DH may end up working away mid week for next few months so I need to get our house in order ASAP. Thanks
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Brighteyes27 · 04/04/2017 09:52
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