This could probably go in AIBU but with the many teenager disputes I am having from DS1 at the moment I am losing energy and so am hoping for some objective thoughts.
Have any of you 'restricted' after school activities on the basis that 'enough is enough'? What DS1 (yr 10) would like to do after school is an endless list. He is arguing about this by text before he even arrives home with a list of solutions to any objection I put forward! I am interested in knowing how much extra curricular 'stuff' your teenagers are doing if they are that way inclined. While I know its positive for them to be doing things and not just hanging around or worse, for me there are a few issues: he is the eldest of 3 by a long way so I cannot run around for him endlessly plus I work and would like some 'life'; this is a reasonable amount of money (c£55 a week I think); some travel on his own by bike is not ideal if it is in certain bits of this city and at certain times of day, and his school work has taken a sudden turn for the worst alongside his hitting adolescence with a vengeance.
And how much are your current teens doing? At present he does: lessons for 2 instruments, related orchestra one night a week, dance one night a week, basketball one night a week. He was doing another sport locally which was fine by me as it was very local, but he has an injury. He is now moaning about wanting to do more basketball tonight which involves a tricky cycle on major roads which DP and I don't think is a great idea or having a lift to another town. And he keeps on about Friday night tabletennis which would mean one or the other of us driving out on a Friday night at 9pm to get him - so I'm not keen at all for various reasons including Friday night .
My feeling is that he is already doing enough and if he wants to do more than a. his schoolwork needs to improve and b. he needs to drop something. AIBU? It's one way traffic from him at the moment, most of which is not very polite, so I'm conscious that I am not feeling very well disposed...
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marl · 03/04/2017 11:49
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