Hi everyone
I would really appreciate some insight into what it’s like to have parents that are divorced and where contact with dad is limited and dad is bad-mouthed at home (I know this because I’ve heard what’s been said myself). Sorry if this is a bit long.
My step daughters are aged 14 and 17, I have been with their father for 7 years and married for 3. We have another child together.
My step daughters are no longer in contact with their dad; contact has gradually reduced over the last few years. Although in the past my husband could have tried harder (imo), it’s always been made very difficult for him to see his children. The children I’m afraid have been used as pawns by their mum in the divorce (10 years ago). The elder daughter stopped contact before the younger daughter did. My husband keeps in touch with them very regularly by phone (we live about an hours drive away) and is often trying to make arrangements to see them, but they totally ignore him. Mum doesn’t encourage contact/visits at all.
I would really like to see this situation from my step daughters’ points of view. They are nice girls, so their behaviour towards their dad doesn’t match what they are like in general.
I don’t have a problem with their mum, although I disagree with some of her choices and parenting. I put my feelings aside and have a civil relationship with her for the sake of the children. There aren’t any problems there (from my point of view) and I met my husband well after they divorced. I have a good relationship with the children when I see them, but that’s not very often.
My own mother always tried to make me side with her against my dad, although they are still together, so I have a bit of understanding of what that’s like.
Why are they ignoring their dad do you think? Is is pressure from mum? Are they just being teenagers? I’m not really sure.
Thanks x
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NikkiP53 · 22/03/2017 18:19
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