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WWYD? Sexual photos, it's all a mess and I don't know if I should get involved.

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DailyMailDontStealMyThread Tue 28-Feb-17 22:37:34

DD15, large group of friends some nicer than others and as often happens a few fall outs along the way so I tend not to get involved with any drama these days but this one just feels a bit out of my 'don't get involved" radar.

One 15yr old in the school toilet cubicle fingering herself and taking a picture of it.

Another girl leans over the cubicle and films this happening and then sends to lots of "friends" on social media.

My DD isn't involved in any of the above apart from receiving the video, sharing it (I know, she knows and believe me we have had long conversations about this tonight and it is deleted from her phone) I know about it because she told me.

I just don't feel like I can stay out of this. I worry that the girl in the video is maybe photographing herself for dark reasons, I don't know, hence why I'm posting here, for advice.

AndImAnElf Tue 28-Feb-17 22:38:53

I would pass it on to the school pastoral team - this is the sort of thing they can and should get involved in.

Gunpowder Tue 28-Feb-17 22:40:22

Agree with Elf. School pastoral team. I think the behaviour of the girl filming the girl in the toilet and sharing it is the most worrying aspect of this.

Permanentlyexhausted Tue 28-Feb-17 22:40:37

I would raise your concerns with the school and let them take it from there.

TheSecondOfHerName Tue 28-Feb-17 22:40:58

I would phone the school in the morning and ask to speak to the designated safeguarding lead.

KeemaNaan Tue 28-Feb-17 22:41:32

Absolutely get involved. The school needs to know as they can deal with all of the children together.

AnyFucker Tue 28-Feb-17 22:45:37

9am tomorrow you get straight on to the school.

Good luck. You will be protecting that poor girl. Be warned though that your own daughter may well face some consequences for sharing the footage. What a bloody mess.

DailyMailDontStealMyThread Tue 28-Feb-17 22:52:44

I'm worried about the safety of the girl taking pictures of herself in the toilet and for the girl who filmed it (her friend apparently) and shared it.

I know the girl in the toilets mum very vaguely but as all posts above suggest it is probably best to speak directly to the school as it happened on their premises?

I know my DD may get caught up in the implications but tbh, we have spoken about this sort of thing at length and her actions by sharing it should be dealt with along with everyone else involved.

I feel very sad for the girl in the toilet, she may not be my daughters friend at this time but I can't help worrying about what her motives were sad

TheSecondOfHerName Tue 28-Feb-17 23:40:10

She may have been coerced.

AndImAnElf Wed 01-Mar-17 01:18:04

Definitely go to the school - they will know what to do as the safeguarding protocols are followed closely these days, and it will be dealt with appropriately.

Butterymuffin Wed 01-Mar-17 01:36:50

Speak to the school, who will (probably, sadly) have dealt with issues like this before. Don't approach the mum directly, let them.

Newmanwannabe Wed 01-Mar-17 02:04:40

Obviously you've had "the talk" and your DD won't do it again, but did you know by sharing the clip she could technically be charged with distribution of child pornography and end up on a sexual offender list? It would be unlikely to happen, but there might. One a day when "they" want to set a precedent and someone would end up in a lot of trouble.

Desperateforsleepzzzz Wed 01-Mar-17 07:59:11

You need to speak to school ASAP they will deal with it. Your dd is old enough to know better than to share it, not only is it bullying it's distributing child pornography. You need to be involved and let dd face the consequences of her actions.

wishcarry Wed 01-Mar-17 08:23:26

Oh that poor girl.yes you have to talk to the school asap before the video gets circulated more.

AnyFucker Wed 01-Mar-17 17:06:57

How did it go today op ?

DailyMailDontStealMyThread Wed 01-Mar-17 18:08:28

They were already aware of it and apparently from what DD said, both sets of parents were at the school today so hopefully everything will get sorted.

Apparently the video is now on rate my nude (what ever that is) - I told the school and checked DD isn't viewing or involved in such things which she isn't.

wishcarry Wed 01-Mar-17 18:16:04

I'm glad the school is aware and have asked the parents in to talk.

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