I've just said unforgivable and unforgettable things to our teen.
But I've bred a monster, at any rate to his parents, potentially to a future family.
He's charming to most people, though pretty demanding as far as I can see to his friends. He's an only.
He has been working from home. He tells me off and then says, because he uses words cleverly, that there was nothing critical in us words, that I'm being paranoid. I.e. He gaslights me.
He does nothing to help. He lies on the sofa and expects exeverything to be done for him, by his father and me.
He's selfish . He can cook but will usually only cook for himself. He never offers to make anyone a cup of tea. He can do his own washing, but won't do it or if so only does it for himself. He inhabits our sitting room where the tv is, to work, so we can't use the room as he's working or in the phone. He claims that because he is the only one working in the house (DH is ill, I am too and have taken early retirement) he shouldn't do any housework.
He's a bit ODD. He's clever. He's idle.
He can also be v loving. He loves the dog.
We are not charging him rent on the basis that he is saving his earnings to travel pre uni. He was outraged at the proposition even though he is earning, admittedly at minimum wage and short term contracts.
He is giving me a hard time about me not earning. The latest was he doesn't want to see me starve when I'm 70. He has made it clear he doesn't want to have to support us. He's mean with money towards us.
I told him to get out. He did.
I later apologised for overreacting over a small straw, which I had done, and I neither want to be petty nor set a bad example. he has come back. He doesn't want to talk to me, fine. I don't want to talk to him, ATM .
I said we need to renegotiate our family relationship. I said I understood he felt hard done by, and more, and that I felt exploited etc.
Advice, please. Not just to put our relation on a better footing but also to help him for the future.
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I've bred a monster : advice, please
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OrlandaFuriosa · 26/02/2017 23:24
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